I’ve read many “open letters” in the past. Very recently, following the devastating kidnapping and murders of Eyal, Gilad, and Naftali, something occurred to me about this technique of “open letter.” Although there are many motivations why one would choose to write an open letter, a general theme I have found is to promote thought and perhaps action among an audience. But interestingly enough, while it’s usually addressed directly towards someone specific—usually a political figure (*cough* Obama)—it’s not personal. So here I go.

This is an open letter to YOU.

Yeah, you heard me—I’m talking to you. You in the dark jeans working at your office in Tel Aviv. You in New York, sitting down to a cup of coffee. You in your khakis and crocs in Judea and Samaria. This letter is for you—and only you.

So now that we’ve met—let’s get personal.

You’re devastated—right? I’m talking about our boys who’ve been stolen and slaughtered.

Maybe you’re in Israel right now and you’ve joined the thousands of our brothers and sisters who have been mourning our losses. Perhaps you’ve rallied in Tel Aviv or in front of the Israeli Consulate in NYC. Maybe you’ve attended a fundraiser. And most probably, you’ve changed your profile picture or updated a status on Facebook about this heart-breaking time for us all.

But then what? What about in two…three…four weeks? You’ll move on. Trust me—you will. Of course, only until the next tragedy strikes, G-d forbid. And then the whole cycle will repeat.

My point to you? Stop blaming. Start doing.

Stop blaming Obama and Kerry. Stop blaming America. Yes, Israel and America are in an unhealthy, controlling, and abusive relationship and if you want to talk about it, I’m all yours. After all- we are friends, right?

But guess what? Obama, Kerry, and America are not going to fight for the existence of the State of Israel. They are not going to bring the redemption any closer and they are not going to promote the rebuilding of the Temple.

You will. You in Tel Aviv. You in Jerusalem. You in the Golan Heights. You in Judea and Samaria (if you’re not already). And yes, those in exile- you too! You in New York, Miami, L.A., etc.

What I am trying to tell you is do something—take something new upon yourself. Something long-lasting. Something that will be more effective than just blaming others. Something that will keep our three boys’ memories in this world forever, rather than a few rallies and status updates. Something that will bring the redemption closer. Be creative, be bold, and be affective.