Ironically one of the challenges at JWed.com is our success.

What do we mean?

With a service that yields an average 4 weddings a week, the number of new online Jewish dating prospects constantly increases by the thousands.

This bigger pool may all sound good. But as a website that defines success by actual marriages and not mere daters, it can create new challenges.

From our origins as when branded as Frumster.com, the focus has always been to provide an online dating experience that does not replicate the common off-line dating challenges – online.

One of the most destructive elements is the dismissive quality.

That is wrongfully eliminating the consideration of many, because of a false sense of finding “the perfect one” given a pool of potential thousands.

Indeed, one of the ironic challenges for many of the Upper-West-Side dating scene in Manhattan, is that the vast number of potential singles frustrates the possibility of actually finding ones soul mate because of a feeling that there may always be someone “better.” (Not that there are not singles getting engaged and married each week.)

As such JWed must constantly find a delicate balance, providing on the one hand powerful online tools of choice for the user, but at the same time, not creating an environment that replicates the vast numbers dilemma of offline dating.

As part of this effort, JWed has been working with a new initiative called “Breakthrough” the brain child  of Shira Strassman which provides insightful and interactive programs with well-known South African psychologist Dr. Leonard Carr.  To quote” Breakthrough programs demystify the complex individual and interpersonal challenges we experience throughout our lives, and enable us to synthesize them on the molecular level.”

What is it exactly?

I would just encourage you to attend a Breakthrough Shabbaton as I did as a guest speaker some weeks ago.

There is nothing like it.

For many so-called “Singles Shabbatonim” successes is defined by the first 2 minutes on evaluating who is in the room.

For the select singles at this Shabbaton in Long Beach, successes was defined by every participant – in leaving with a greater sense of understanding of self (and who they were) and  what they really should be looking for in a soul mate. Not in a superficial general sense but in a powerful personal sense – how the unique and different qualities of each person translated into a clearer picture as to the unique attributes they should be looking for.

Very often, the singles scene is understood and defined by a numbers game.

We at JWed believe success is much more defined by the quality of singles, the seriousness of these looking to get married and very importantly by singles themselves – individuals better understanding who exactly they are and what they should best be looking for in a soul mate.