It has been a few days since the Freundel scandal broke.There is much reading material available concerning the alleged offenses that took place and multiple opinions by a plethora of men and women who have been quite vocal on the topic.
I am not here to jump on the bandwagon and voice my gripes about orthodoxy; nor do I attempt to repeat or add to the many suggestions that have been voiced by dozens of well spoken individuals.
I, however, want to take this opportunity to springboard off this news story to discuss just how harmful voyeurism is and how it can seriously impact the victim of such a heinous crime. Spying on someone engaged in intimate behaviors without the person’s knowledge or consent is not only a gross violation of ones rights, it is theft, and a sick, perverted sexual pleasure that is a coward’s virtual rape of the unsuspecting.
Once the victim becomes aware of the crime, they experience feelings of being violated in the most intimate of ways. They, henceforth, do not trust their environment and suffer bouts of paranoia. If they prosecute the offender they are exposed to countless more preying eyes as the case is being adjudicated. The humiliating evidence gets filed away not allowing the victim to achieve closure in the knowledge that it forever exists.
The voyeur has taken something he can never give back. He has taken the victims right to decide by whom and how her body may be viewed. He stole a piece of who she is forever. He stole her safety, her pride, her honor, her dignity. He maintains the images of her body in the hard drive of his memory forever. There is no way to retrieve what is rightfully hers. He took unjustly and no matter what sentence he receives he still keeps what is not his forever more.
Voyeurism is a theft of the worst kind, for such sacred goods can never be returned.