Tuesday morning I awoke to find that tragedy had hit. Two evil people entered a house of worship slaughtered four innocent people and injured many others. Am I omitting something? Oh yes, the people committing the crime were Muslims and the victims were Jewish. While the world may think that these details are unimportant, we The Jews, The Israelis, and the parents of the future know that it means all the difference in the world.

Hate is a strong word; hate is a strong emotion. Hate should be reserved for those deserving.

Hate is a strong word; hate is a strong emotion. Hate should be reserved for those deserving.My mother always says “we hate Hitler.” How do we as parents teach our children to separate the people from the act? I do not hate all Muslims, and I do not hate all Arabs. I hate the ones that kill, the ones that perpetrate hate, and promote murderers to the height of martyrdom. While separating the two may be difficult in the real world, it is almost an impossible task here in Israel where a healthy dose of suspicion can actually save your life.

Israeli children, our children are forced into the harsh reality of the real world, where there is no black and white but shades of grey. My children will be aware of what is happening in their backyard whether I tell them or not. So, how do I teach my children that “all men are created equal,” while simultaneously teaching them the merits of racial profiling?

It hit me that maybe I was going about this all wrong. I do not need to emphasize to my children the negatives in the world. We do not live in America and political correctness does not exist in Israel. Stereotyping has a way of backfiring.  Being Muslim does not make you a bad person the same way that being Jewish does not make you a good one. My children do not need to hate Muslims to be safe they just need to love Jews more.

Being Muslim does not make you a bad person the same way that being Jewish does not make you a good one.

Yes, I will teach my children the beauty in Israel, the beauty of Judaism. I will teach them that we are all family (every family has their own creepy uncle). We love our family, we rejoice together and we mourn together. Muslims are not evil they are just not our family, and we are wary of strangers.

This is Israel; the feeling of family (achdut) is tangible. Sadly, sometimes we need tragedies to see it but it is true. So, I will tell my children about the victims of this attack, and about the long history of attacks that our family has suffered. I will teach them that despite our differences we are all part of the same Jewish family. I will teach my children to love and save the hate for the ones who deserve it.