whatwomenwant

Last night I was talking to a friend at the gym when another guy comes over telling us of his women troubles. He said to me, “women are so frustrating, they never know what they want!” Now, I can say to you this is true, because a lot of the time, we don’t even know what we want for dinner, but then I can tell you no, it is not true, we do know what we want, but do we really?

Obviously with age we grow up and start to learn the things we want and don’t when it comes to a relationship. As women, we know the kind of men that suit us and those that don’t. As we all know, I don’t think like your average woman. See, in the word woman there is the word man and I was blessed to have the ability to think like both. When it comes to dating and sex, yes, a lot of the time I do think like a man, but when it comes to relationships, I am the ultimate woman.

So what I am about to do is give a list of some of the things that women want. The girly girls, the tomboys, the psycho stalking creepy kind of girls, the girls who don’t give a damn, the girls who care too much – basically, every type of woman. Men, take notes!

List is in no particular order.

Honesty:
Without honesty, there is no trust. Trust and understanding is a big thing with honesty. The minute you lie, you break that trust. Do not fool around with her feelings under the impression you think you may hurt her. Girls would much rather be told the truth than be lied to. If we get hurt we can deal with it, that is what alcohol and Ben & Jerry’s was made for.

Intelligence:
Women are attracted to guys that know how to hold a conversation about many different things other than football and beer. Guys need to flaunt this in a way that is humble and interesting. Surprise us with your intelligence. Being knowledgeable is a massive turn on! Do you know something about exotic wines? Listen to Frank Sinatra? Great, tell us, these are things we would like to hear. Nothing makes you sexier than class and intelligence.

Sense of humour:
This is usually number one for me personally. If a guy can make me laugh, I can fall for him there and then. I love to make people laugh so when someone does it to me, it’s a wonderful feeling. When a guy makes a girl laugh, she can forget about her bad day, or the fight she had with her best friend because it is a warm and special feeling when a guy makes you giggle. But guys, do not try too hard. Do not tell me jokes you read from the newspaper whilst on the toilet. Let it flow, let it come naturally and you can have a girl at your fingertips.

Challenge:
Challenge us. Girls like a challenge. We may (some) act like we are waiting for the phone call or the text message but really; we don’t want you to be so clingy and forward. We like a bit of space and we like a challenge. That doesn’t mean go be a player and let us find out that you are texting 3 girls at the same time. It means don’t message us every hour to say hello. Let us miss you, let us wait a bit, and give us something to want!

Be Clean:
Yes, this is coming. Guys, have some good personal hygiene skills and trust me, it will be appreciated. Smell good. Nothing makes a woman melt like a man with a good smell. I can walk past a man on the street and the whiff of his aftershave can take me to another level (to a point of stalking, I literally turned direction to follow a man once cos he smelt so good.) Get over your rock star dreams with your unruly, unwashed and un brushed hair. Clean your apartment. Remove the empty McDonalds packets from your car. Take showers, daily!

Do not give away your power:
Guys, want to know what is really sexy? A man with power. Want to know what is really unsexy? A whipped little boy. Listen, every girl wants their man to drool over them and give them what they want, but no girl wants her man to give in to everything. I am a girl who likes to be in control with most things in my life, so when it comes to men and my relationships, I like a guy to be in control. Don’t wait for me to pick the restaurant every time, do not tell me “I don’t mind baby, whatever you want!” GRRRRR have some power, tell us what you want to do and where you want to go and don’t worry, if we do not like it, we will tell you. Don’t be scared of us or scared to hurt our feelings. Don’t get it twisted though; we don’t want to be controlled about each aspect of the relationship. Yes, a bit of control in bed is good too but let us have our voice and be heard. Just do not be a guy who lets his woman control him. Once girls hear and see it, you become so unwanted. There are girls that will control guys to get what she wants and as soon as she has it and has left your broke ass dry, she will move on to her next victim. These kinds of girls are masters at what they do and can get any guy to fall for them. She will basically emotionally rape you.

Generosity:
Women love men who can be generous. This doesn’t mean spending your whole paycheck on us. It doesn’t even have to be on us. It doesn’t even have to be money, can be time too. I knew a guy once who volunteered once a week at a dog shelter. Not only do I love dogs, but I love the fact a guy gave up his time to help them providing them love. Unfortunately, his love for women was not as good but he was such a decent guy and I had so much love and respect for him. Of course we love it when guys buy us a little present here and there or provide us with their time, especially on football Sundays – but guys, be generous in the bedroom too. There are girls who love sex just as much as you do, and should you be good at it, we will keep running back for more. You could be the world’s most handsome, kind and funny man, but should you lack skills in the bedroom, we will forget you. Read a book, watch some tutorials get it right and you will win.

Romance:
You know what, romance is dead these days. There is too much talking, not enough doing. Guys will message girls all this rubbish over the phone but never back up their actions. Where is chivalry these days? Connect with us emotionally and that is golden. Romance does not have to be gifts. This is where guys get mistaken. Open a door for me, give me your hand when I am getting out of the car, pull out my chair – that is romantic. We aren’t expecting you to be a knight in shining armour, I mean usually we get assholes in tin foil these days but it is the little things that count. These are the things that can sweep a girl off of her feet. Don’t get me wrong, if I liked a guy and he came below my window playing one of my favourite love songs like “Have I Told You Lately That I Love You” (Rod Stewart Version) or “The Way You Look Tonight” (Westlife’s version) I would collapse and have to pinch myself to check I wasn’t in a dream because ultimately, it is EVERY girls dream for something like that to happen.. You would have my heart! Ok, well back to reality we go.. Guys, be romantic god damn it!

Be yourself!
Guys, you know what pisses me off? When we go on a date and you say all the right things and then I get to know you better and everything you said was just a complete haystack of lies! Do not talk rubbish just to impress a girl. Be yourself. Girls are happiest when they can be themselves around guys. Don’t lie and make stuff up because you think it will impress us. We may be impressed for all of ten minutes but when we found out you lied, we will be least impressed for all of ten years. Trust me when I say this, if you are a bit of a geek, go with it. Girls love a guy with an inner geek. If your idea of a perfect date is going to a theme park rather than dinner or drinks then take us. We want to know the real you from early on to identify if you can be the man for us. Be you and don’t pretend and you will get far.

Loyalty:
I will tell you what can get a girls knickers in a twist bigger than watching Channing Tatum in Magic Mike, and that is when a guy is disloyal. As females, we know the male species have it in them to be a “player” or a bit of a commitment-phobe. Don’t worry, I have lived as the number one emoshaphobe, I know all the ways of living un-attached. Just because you aren’t in a ‘serious’ relationship with someone yet, does not mean you can’t be loyal. If you are dating someone, you know what; forget about the other girls for the time being. Give her all of your attention. There is nothing worse than finding out the guy you are dating took another girls number or was seen chatting girls up. If you continue to act like this, you will get nowhere. If you respect us and actually respect yourself too, then be a gentleman and be loyal. It won’t kill you.