Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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A better alternative to loving every fellow Jew

“We must love every Jew” much reminds me of “We must fully repent.” These both are nice goals for on our deathbeds but for everyday life, they are as extreme as unattainable for most people. Let’s start smaller.

How about just lowering the flames?

When yet another Israeli declares that all others are terrible (with details) and he’s creating a new political party, let’s not get all excited. Don’t read all the junk. Don’t declare your loyalty to any animosity. Our good deed will be to vote for the for us best candidate, not to slander all the others.

When a boy tragically died in a confrontation between youths and police, do we need to take sides and get all heated up about ‘who killed him’? We have courts and lawyers. Let them do their jobs. It’s bad enough he died. Is he revived (or gaining virtue) by us hating one side or the other?

People who violate lockdown aren’t just ultra-Orthodox, non-religious, younger, older, working-age, etc. In every group, some people assume that they are above the law, above the forces of nature, or more entitled than others. Let us not strengthen our prejudices against ‘other’ Jews.

But them, they are like enemies of the Jews and Israel. Look who’s talking! You ruin everything we built. You built? We built, you mean. Reb Shlomo says: Israel’s like a bird, needing two wings to fly. A left and a right one.

Remember, many people are dedicated and passionate about hating Jews who would like all of us to die. That means that we are all on the same side. It’s not them Jews against us Jews. We’re all in the same boat.

(When you’d ask why Jews would be commanded to love every Jew and not every person, there are many good answers. First of all, Jews must respect every person. Secondly, it’s so easy to ‘love everyone.’ Now, try loving those close to us. Lastly, many Jews live under a lot of pressure (from Jew-hatred). The knee-jerk response is to fight each other. And the role of Gentiles in this? More than just loving us, foster Jewish unity.)

Instead of ‘trying to love every Jew,’ let’s first of all, lower the flames.

When we do that, I’m sure the Satan does the same.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500th blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * To find his earlier blog posts on a certain subject XXX, among his over 1200 ones, go to the right-top corner of the Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". His second daily active less tame blog, to which one may subscribe, one may find here: or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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