Zelda Harris
Five on the 100 aliyah from UK list!

Am I anti-social?

I looked it up in Google,where else?

Am I becoming anti-social?

Just because I do not feel that I want to engage with others, small talk about things of no interest, being with a group on a trip and so on?

Are there people out there who are beginning to feel like me? Or is it just my advanced age that is making me something that I never was.

All my life I have fought for causes. I even remember in the midst of World War Two when as an only child  I was living in Edgware on the outskirts of London, I organised a “bring and buy” event in our garden, to raise money for Russian Relief. In other words, to help, Uncle Joe Stalin as he was called.

I have never had a problem communicating with people in the workplace, friends and family of course. So in other words even though I was kind of shy inside, on the surface it was never evident.

However, Corona and the inevitable isolation which comes with it are worrying me.

I would like to hear from others on how or if they feel that they have changed?

How do they retain motivation? How do they feel when others around are going on or planning trips and one is not included.

The reasons which may seem obvious…she’s too old to travel or will not be able to climb over rocks or paddle in streams and so on.

I think the worst thing about being old and as such no longer completely independent, is just that. My son the Professor who has ended up being the person responsible in every way for his Mama is adding MD to his title. Mum’s Doctor!

I am one of the lucky ones. So many have, either no children or are far away from them.

When I came to Israel, originally, I left my family behind. Only one cousin, Diana, made Aliyah as a young woman, and, funnily enough, that was during the period when we had returned to London with three sons and literally with the clothes we stood up in.

After going back and forth and finally settling for good we are indeed fortunate to have our eldest son here, with an amazing partner and an incredible, loving and united family.

Although our three sons spent their early years here, life took them in different directions.

They all loved the country. However, due to circumstances arising from their careers and also the needs of their spouses, two of them did not remain here. Today is the Yartzheit of our beloved Anthony, who at the time of his death was CEO of Hilton International.

Such it is in many families I know.

So for elderly people like me unless they are real home biddies, this period of restrictions which hinders travel overseas too, is like wasting of precious time. I should have gone to Australia on March first to visit my darling granddaughter Anna and her husband…but!

In fact, there’s time on our hands as they say, but long-term plans are out of the question. As the saying goes”don’t buy green tomatoes”  or is it bananas?

So enjoy the precious moments even if few and far between and give thanks to something greater than us, for providing systems of communication like ZOOM.  If you are  ADEPT  it will bring you together with colleagues, friends, students and teachers and most importantly with loved ones.

On turning 90 my children and grandchildren in different parts of the world devised innovative ways to make my birthday one of the most enjoyable and happy that anyone could have had. Given the circumstances in which we live and function, in these Corona days.

I am blessed and a wee bit ashamed that I can even imagine myself being… anti-social!

Hag Sameach and enjoy our amazing climate… skiing…anyone?

I forgot to ask? Who are you giving your votes to? I am confused If only we could just vote for individuals, there are some great people standing but all in different parties.

I will vote for Merav Michaeli my heart will always be with AVODAH…the party whose predecessors were largely responsible for the building of this country and putting its institutions in place!

After Bibi goes we  Israelis may have something positive to look forward to.

From my mouth to God’s ears.

Shabbat Shalom

About the Author
Zelda Harris first came to Israel 1949, aged 18. After living through the hardships of the nascent state, she returned to England in 1966. She was a founding member of the Women's Campaign for Soviet Jewry. In 1978, she returned with her family to Israel and has been active in various spheres of Israeli Society since. Together with the late Chaim Herzog, she founded CCC for Electoral Reform, was the Director of BIPAC in Israel, and a co-founder of Metuna, the Organisation for Road Safety, which received the Speaker of Knesset Quality of Life Award for saving lives on the roads and prevention of serious injury. She is now a peace activist, blogger for Times of Israel and is writing her life story.
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