Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

America, do you think your husband will save you?

The Trump presidency as an abusive marriage

Dear America,

You know me as your friend. I need to tell you something. If I wouldn’t tell you, I would fail you as a friend. But I won’t tell you anything new.

I know you still love him. We know how often you have given him the benefit of the doubt. We know how often you needed to re-convince yourself to stick with him, to stay loyal. But isn’t four years enough to make up your mind? What, beyond empty promises, has he given you?

I’m sorry to tell you that the one who gives you hope, who seems so strong and good, the one your heart goes out to, the one you trusted, the only one you liked for years, the one who seemed powerful and benign enough to save you from the burning house, he’s the one who set the place on fire.

The one who pronounces that he will restore law and order, is the one who riled up and still infuriates people, on both sides.

The one who cares most, who talks about that he will make sure that you’ll be healed, he’s the one who got you infected and prevented you from seeking medical help immediately.

The one who will secure you against foreign evil and buy you enough weapons, he is the one who messed up the outside world in the first place.

The one who brags about his IQ, he is the same one who discards the expert opinion, science and medical science, by default.

The one who speaks of calm, love, and peace for you (and fellow bullies), all he has shown has been the sowing of hatred, discord, and division.

You’re afraid to starve and he will give you all you need? But he is the one who ruined you, who gave from money you didn’t have to his rich friends.

You liked his brazenness, his boldness, his pride despite everything. But, please look back; would you really like to follow his example?

You wanted to believe him. He was a breath of fresh air. But you knew he was an imposter. You knew he was fooling everyone and possibly you too. He was too good to be true and he wasn’t. Please stop fooling yourself.

You may ask: Is he then such a genius that he plotted all this deceit, just to create chaos in order to appear my savior? Isn’t that a bit far-fetched, a conspiracy theory if there ever was one?

And I will tell you: You’re right. He didn’t plan this. He created all this mess, not from a brilliant wicked strategy. Disaster is all he generates. He did not plot harm. He just can’t do any better. And worst of all, he does not give a sh** about all of it, including you.

Let’s tell it as it is. He was your desperate choice. He spoke so nicely. But he never delivered. Instead, he wasted your precious time, money, nerves.

That is a sad reality to wake up to. You will be in mourning when you admit to yourself what you’ve known all along. But it will pass.

You’re precious as you are. Even if he never loved you, you’re lovable and will be properly loved, will know love again. True love and care. Make America Loved Again (MALA).

You need to leave him for your good. You’ve had your hopes up for years while he turns everything he touches into a ruin. Please cut your losses.

If you can’t do it for you, do it for the children.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500th blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * NEW: To see other blog posts by him, his overspill blog you can reach by clicking on the Website icon next to his picture at the head of every post. There you may find precursors to later TOI blog posts, addition or corrections of published TOI blog posts, blog posts the TOI will not carry, and some thoughts that are too short to be a TOI blog post. Also, the TOI only allows for one blog post per blogger per 24 hours. Sometimes, he has more to say than that. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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