Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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America, do you think your husband will save you?

The Trump presidency as an abusive marriage

Dear America,

You know me as your friend. I need to tell you something. If I wouldn’t tell you, I would fail you as a friend. But I won’t tell you anything new.

I know you still love him. We know how often you have given him the benefit of the doubt. We know how often you needed to re-convince yourself to stick with him, to stay loyal. But isn’t four years enough to make up your mind? What, beyond empty promises, has he given you?

I’m sorry to tell you that the one who gives you hope, who seems so strong and good, the one your heart goes out to, the one you trusted, the only one you liked for years, the one who seemed powerful and benign enough to save you from the burning house, he’s the one who set the place on fire.

The one who pronounces that he will restore law and order, is the one who riled up and still infuriates people, on both sides.

The one who cares most, who talks about that he will make sure that you’ll be healed, he’s the one who got you infected and prevented you from seeking medical help immediately.

The one who will secure you against foreign evil and buy you enough weapons, he is the one who messed up the outside world in the first place.

The one who brags about his IQ, he is the same one who discards the expert opinion, science and medical science, by default.

The one who speaks of calm, love, and peace for you (and fellow bullies), all he has shown has been the sowing of hatred, discord, and division.

You’re afraid to starve and he will give you all you need? But he is the one who ruined you, who gave from money you didn’t have to his rich friends.

You liked his brazenness, his boldness, his pride despite everything. But, please look back; would you really like to follow his example?

You wanted to believe him. He was a breath of fresh air. But you knew he was an imposter. You knew he was fooling everyone and possibly you too. He was too good to be true and he wasn’t. Please stop fooling yourself.

You may ask: Is he then such a genius that he plotted all this deceit, just to create chaos in order to appear my savior? Isn’t that a bit far-fetched, a conspiracy theory if there ever was one?

And I will tell you: You’re right. He didn’t plan this. He created all this mess, not from a brilliant wicked strategy. Disaster is all he generates. He did not plot harm. He just can’t do any better. And worst of all, he does not give a sh** about all of it, including you.

Let’s tell it as it is. He was your desperate choice. He spoke so nicely. But he never delivered. Instead, he wasted your precious time, money, nerves.

That is a sad reality to wake up to. You will be in mourning when you admit to yourself what you’ve known all along. But it will pass.

You’re precious as you are. Even if he never loved you, you’re lovable and will be properly loved, will know love again. True love and care. Make America Loved Again (MALA).

You need to leave him for your good. You’ve had your hopes up for years while he turns everything he touches into a ruin. Please cut your losses.

If you can’t do it for you, do it for the children.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, previously a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He often makes his readers laugh, mad, or assume he's nuts—close to perfect blogging. He's proud that his analytical short comments are removed both from left-wing and right-wing news sites. None of his content is generated by the new bore on the block, AI. * As a frontier thinker, he sees things many don't yet. He's half a prophet. Half. Let's not exaggerate. Or not at all because he doesn't claim G^d talks to him. He gives him good ideas—that's all. MM doesn't believe that people observe and think in a vacuum. He, therefore, wanted a broad bio that readers interested can track a bit what (lack of) backgrounds, experiences, and educations contribute to his visions. * This year, he will prioritize getting his unpublished books published rather than just blog posts. Next year, he hopes to focus on activism against human extinction. To find less-recent posts on a subject XXX among his over 2000 archived ones, go to the right-top corner of a Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". One can find a second, wilder blog, to which one may subscribe too, here: or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * Like most of his readers, he believes in being friendly, respectful, and loyal. However, if you think those are his absolute top priorities, you might end up disappointed. His first loyalty is to the truth. He will try to stay within the limits of democratic and Jewish law, but he won't lie to support opinions or people when don't deserve that. (Yet, we all make honest mistakes, which is just fine and does not justify losing support.) He admits that he sometimes exaggerates to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * Sometimes he's misunderstood because his wide and diverse field of vision seldomly fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what some love about him. He has written a lot about Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (including basic statistics), Politics (Israel, the US, and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight reality), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA+, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), the Climate Crisis, Ecology and Veganism, Affairs from the news, or the Torah Portion of the Week, or new insights that suddenly befell him. * Chronologically, his most influential teachers are his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim, Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. This short list doesn't mean to disrespect others who taught him a lot or a little. One of his rabbis calls him Mr. Innovation [Ish haChidushim]. Yet, his originalities seem to root deeply in traditional Judaism, though they may grow in unexpected directions. In fact, he claims he's modernizing nothing. Rather, mainly basing himself on the basic Hebrew Torah text, he tries to rediscover classical Jewish thought almost lost in thousands of years of stifling Gentile domination and Jewish assimilation. (He pleads for a close reading of the Torah instead of going by rough assumptions of what it would probably mean and before fleeing to Commentaries.) This, in all aspects of life, but prominently in the areas of Free Will, Activism, Homosexuality for men, and Redemption. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, and disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed. He aims to bring a fresh perspective rather than harp on the obvious and familiar. When he can, he loves to write encyclopedic overviews. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds should be disputed. In short, his main political positions are among others: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, anti those who abuse democratic liberties, anti the fake ME peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, pro-Science, pro-Free Will, anti-blaming-the-victim, and for down-to-earth, classical optimism, and happiness. Read his blog on how he attempts to bridge any tensions between those ideas or fields. * He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to his parents who were Dutch-Jewish Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork. He grew up a humble listener. It took him decades to become a speaker too, and decades more to admit to being a genius. But his humility was his to keep. And so was his honesty. Bullies and con artists almost instantaneously envy and hate him. He hopes to bring new things and not just preach to the choir. * He holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam) – is half a doctor. He practices Re-evaluation Co-counseling since 1977, is not an official teacher anymore, and became a friendly, powerful therapist. He became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he was active in hasbara to the Dutch-speaking public. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having an original peek outside of your cultural bubble. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me. * His newest books you may find here:
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