Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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Appeasement enrages bullies, also in politics

Don’t make things worse

The Sages explain that if you are good to the bad, you’ll end up being bad to the good.

If you honor (or worse: love) abusers (mass murderers included), they won’t like you back. They will feel even more disdain for you. They’ll smile back and think: What an idiot.

Don’t corner a violent person if they’d have a way to escape and return to being a threat. They will make themselves even more violent. First, cut off every escape route, and only then, tell them their game is up.

In the Arab souq (it doesn’t need to be Arab, and it doesn’t need to be at the market), you must not look pleased. You point out the merchandise’s disappointing flaws and call the price an insult. The seller plays that what you want to pay is an affront to the best offer he ever made for you as a personal friend. His own mother he would charge more. You simply walk away at his ridiculous suggestion and reluctantly return because he insists you misunderstood him. That’s how, with complaints and sour faces on both sides, slowly the price will go down 95% and the merchandise up by a factor of four. Bibi knows this. If you do this smiling, ‘in good faith’ (win-win), you make an idiot of yourself, and the seller won’t even have a good feeling because he didn’t put up a good fight to make an honest living.

You must not say you want the hostages at any price. You say they should be let go for free (which is true). You walk away repeatedly and play tough until you hear something remotely reasonable. If you accept early offers, the price will only go up. You’ll win no time and pay through the nose.

You’re not dealing with normal people. You would not plead with Hitler for reasonableness and empathy. If you’re weak, they play with you like a cat with a mouse before killing it. Don’t forget they expect all Jews to die soon.


Don’t forget: Israel has made all the mistakes already:

● We let go of Jordan and the West Bank and got a hostile kingdom.

● We gave away Gaza and the Sinai, and all Egyptians still hate us.

● We gave half the West Bank rule to the PA for peace and got Intifada II.

● We disengaged from Gaza and got rockets and a pogrom.

● After rockets, we agreed to ceasefires that Chamas always broke.

● We wanted kidnapped soldier Shalit back and paid with 1000 convicted, jailed murderers, but too many of them returned to murdering Jews.

But we learned the hard time. Even the Left abandoned Land for Peace or a Two-State Solution. We won’t give the Golan Heights to Syria ever. And we won’t try to appease Chamas, Chezbollah, the Houthis, Qatar, or Iran.

Not only don’t we want to die. As Jews, we have a commitment to survive.


Meanwhile, Iran threatens an attack on Israel, but the UN Security Counsel does not meet. The UN was founded to make States talk to each other instead of making war. But an attack on Israel is the exception for the UN.

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MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, previously a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He often makes his readers laugh, mad, or assume he's nuts—close to perfect blogging. He's proud that his analytical short comments are removed both from left-wing and right-wing news sites. None of his content is generated by the new bore on the block, AI. * As a frontier thinker, he sees things many don't yet. He's half a prophet. Half. Let's not exaggerate. Or not at all because he doesn't claim G^d talks to him. He gives him good ideas—that's all. MM doesn't believe that people observe and think in a vacuum. He, therefore, wanted a broad bio that readers interested can track a bit what (lack of) backgrounds, experiences, and educations contribute to his visions. * This year, he will prioritize getting his unpublished books published rather than just blog posts. Next year, he hopes to focus on activism against human extinction. To find less-recent posts on a subject XXX among his over 2000 archived ones, go to the right-top corner of a Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". One can find a second, wilder blog, to which one may subscribe too, here: or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * Like most of his readers, he believes in being friendly, respectful, and loyal. However, if you think those are his absolute top priorities, you might end up disappointed. His first loyalty is to the truth. He will try to stay within the limits of democratic and Jewish law, but he won't lie to support opinions or people when don't deserve that. (Yet, we all make honest mistakes, which is just fine and does not justify losing support.) He admits that he sometimes exaggerates to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. 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When he can, he loves to write encyclopedic overviews. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds should be disputed. In short, his main political positions are among others: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, anti those who abuse democratic liberties, anti the fake ME peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, pro-Science, pro-Free Will, anti-blaming-the-victim, and for down-to-earth, classical optimism, and happiness. Read his blog on how he attempts to bridge any tensions between those ideas or fields. * He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to his parents who were Dutch-Jewish Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork. He grew up a humble listener. It took him decades to become a speaker too, and decades more to admit to being a genius. But his humility was his to keep. And so was his honesty. Bullies and con artists almost instantaneously envy and hate him. 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