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Jun 4, 2026, 10:37 AM

Shalom Brothers: The Male Capacity to Nurture (B’haalotekhah)

When I became a father for the first time, like many men, I had no idea what I was doing. Short of helping create an actual human being, I had no real understanding of how to care for that...

May 30, 2026, 12:32 AM

Shalom Brothers: Suspicion Is Not Love (Naso)

Parashat Naso contains one of the most difficult passages in the Torah: the ritual of the Sotah, the woman suspected of adultery. There is no way to make this text easy. A husband is overcome by jealousy. He suspects his...

May 22, 2026, 12:04 AM

Shalom Brothers: The Mountain Over Our Heads (Shavuot)

The Torah’s account of Sinai is not gentle. Neither is my account of growing into manhood. Much like our ancestors' experience receiving the Torah eons ago, my experience receiving the Torah contained in masculinity was filled with confusion, awe,...

May 15, 2026, 8:20 AM

A Man Is Not A Number (Bamidbar)

The Book of Numbers begins, unsurprisingly, by counting. At the opening of Bamidbar (lit. In the wilderness), God tells Moses to take a census of the Israelites: tribe by tribe, household by household, name by name. It is easy...

May 13, 2026, 4:28 AM

The devil wears cleats

(AI)

Despite their TikTok attention spans, my adolescent sons were into the long-form drama about fashion, work, identity, and power - and I learned not to sell them short

May 8, 2026, 6:38 PM

When Money Becomes Manhood (Behar-Behukotai)

Men are often taught to treat money as proof of manhood. Not just as a practical necessity. As evidence. Evidence that you are competent, desirable, serious, protective, respectable. Evidence that you can provide, recover, endure. Evidence that your life is...

May 4, 2026, 11:11 AM

Shalom Brothers: What Men Catch (Emor)

Shlomo Bardin, the visionary founder of Brandeis-Bardin, famously taught that Judaism is “caught, not taught.” He was right, and also only half right. Judaism is contagious. It travels through melody, gesture, hospitality, rhythm, meals, posture, atmosphere. It gets into...

Apr 28, 2026, 7:56 AM

Dr. Robby Needs More Than a Motorcycle

In 2019, while going through my divorce, I learned how quietly a man can disappear inside his own life. I was working, parenting, and trying to be steady for everyone else. From the outside, I looked functional. Inside, I...

Apr 24, 2026, 3:21 AM

Shalom Brothers: Dancing Through the Darkness (Acharei-Mot/Kedoshim)

Grief is one of the places where masculinity most often betrays men. Not because men do not feel deeply. They do. But many men are trained to metabolize loss through motion rather than mourning. Keep working. Keep producing. Keep carrying....

Apr 17, 2026, 7:38 AM

Shalom Brothers: The Labor Men Still Don’t See (Tazria)

There is a particular kind of loneliness that can take root inside a marriage not because love has vanished, but because labor has gone unseen. A wife is carrying the schedule, the remembering, the anticipating, the soothing, the cleaning, the...

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About Me

Noam Raucher is an ordained rabbi, educator, and certified divorce coach. His work focuses on pro-social masculinity, spiritual growth, relationships, and divorce. He was ordained at the Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies in 2011 and has served in the pulpit at Temple Israel in Charlotte, North Carolina, and at the Pasadena Jewish Temple and Center in Pasadena, California. His background also includes extensive experience supporting individuals as a spiritual guide and through his work as a counselor at Yale Psychiatric Hospital in New Haven, Connecticut. Noam currently serves as Executive Director of FJMC International—formerly the Federation of Jewish Men’s Clubs, now reimagined around four pillars: Friendship, Judaism, Mentorship, and Community. In this role, he helps build and strengthen communities that support men’s connection, purpose, and growth.