Shaindy Urman

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Apr 30, 2020, 10:56 PM

This coming weekend, I was supposed to speak at a Young Israel of the most exotic island I’ve ever been invited to speak at: Staten Island. Way back in February, BC -- Before COVID -- the weekend of May...

Jun 20, 2017, 9:56 AM

Maybe you will read this when you come back from the dead

This one, this time, is dedicated to you. You who may not read this, (not because you won't see it but) because you are already dead, and dead people don't read stories about the men who have killed them. Tell me, please, if you...

Jan 8, 2017, 9:20 AM

The girl who cried wolf

If you're upset by the vulgar ways she writes about domestic violence, be more upset by the vulgarity of the abuse

Oct 26, 2016, 5:52 AM

Thank goodness for October

This Domestic Violence Awareness Month, remember that love isn’t love if it makes you feel like sh*t

Jun 29, 2016, 8:13 AM

Forgive Me Forgive Me

Read these. Read these and realize that this is just a drop in the bucket of what women send me, a complete stranger whom they’ve never met. Read these and realize that these are women who’ve already left, who tried to...

May 5, 2016, 9:03 PM

When one plus 1 = 1

There’s this thing in Judaism called gematria, which, put simply, is a system that assigns numerical value to words or phrases with the belief that words or phrases with identical numerical values bear some relation to each other, or...

Feb 29, 2016, 8:21 PM

Domestic violence is a smiling woman

Domestic violence is a smiling woman. It is the attorney in crisp business suit and black pumps. It is the beautiful blonde whose earrings match her eyes. Domestic violence is a cop. She is a professor. She is a writer....

Dec 31, 2015, 9:55 PM

And sometimes the monster is right in your bed

I was sixteen when I met him, in that awkward, in-between space where I looked fully grown, yet was very much Child. I was sixteen when I met him, in my chunky Steve Madden boots and faded blue jean...

Nov 5, 2015, 7:05 AM

The Stranger in Boro Park Who Loves Me

There's a stranger in Boro Park who loves me. I know this, because she told me she does. She told me as I stumbled out of my car, my boot-clad foot crushing my cigarette underneath my heel, iced coffee...

Jun 30, 2015, 4:14 AM

Go Tell Mommy She’s a Bitch

I think it was around her second birthday when my daughter learned a brand new word. “Go tell Mommy she’s a bitch,” her father said to her. “BIT-CH,” he pronounced. “Can you go tell Mommy?” I ran and covered her...

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About Me

Shaindy Urman is a freelance writer and full-time mom living in Brooklyn, NY. Her work has appeared in Tablet, The Forward, Kveller, and Romper.