Jay Hait
American Israeli Family Law Attorney

Considering divorce? Don’t ask your friends for advice!

Photo Credit Andrea-Piacquadio
photo credit- Andre a Piacquadio

What’s wrong with getting well meaning advice from your friends?

If you’re thinking about getting divorced, you will soon find that everybody is an expert and wants to give you advice. Your family. Your friends. The people you work with. Your bartender, your hairdresser……

I’m not saying they don’t have good intentions – I have no doubt that they do. These are the people who care about you (ok – maybe your bartender and hairdresser a little less). And nowadays everybody has either gone through a divorce themselves or has a close relative or friend who has. With 1/3 of marriages in Israel ending in divorce, it makes sense. So, rest assured, they’ll be telling you what you should be doing……

  • Leave your home to show how dire the situation is. Don’t leave your house because you might lose it in the divorce.
  • Take the money out of your savings so he can’t get it. Don’t take all your money out, she could sue you for theft.
  • Stay together for your kids. Don’t stay together for the kids.

It can all be very confusing at a time when it’s imperative that you have clarity. So here’s some sound advice you should heed: take everything you hear with a grain of salt.

Why? Because, while the emotional upheaval of divorce is a common experience, each couple has their own unique set of circumstances that may not apply to yours – different emotional relationships and different financial details, to name a few.

Who should you be listening to then, when you are considering divorce and you don’t know where to begin?

Even before you think about consulting with an attorney (you may not even need one depending on your situation) you can be educating yourself about the divorce process in Israel. If you search Youtube with your questions you will get a number of very good answers from actual divorce attorneys. For example, if you ask, “Can a divorced parent move with their kids to another country? ” you will find the answer. Or, “What to do when your spouse wants a divorce?

Even if you decide to get divorced without hiring an attorney you should definitely consult with one.

Only the attorney who represents you (and for purposes of planning your divorce, consulting with an attorney is like having one represent you) is going to be able to give you the best advice, taking into account any updates or changes in the legal system that could effect your personal situation.

Only the attorney that represents you is not going to be influenced by the emotional baggage that comes with divorce and to help you focus on the relevant facts and issues. Not your best friend who got divorced.  Not your mother’s best friend who was there every step of the way when her daughter got divorced.  Not anybody else for that matter.

The legal system in Israel can be a complicated affair with the secular family courts and the Rabbinic courts operating independently. You need an attorney who is comfortable navigating both. So do your research. Learn as much as you can and then choose someone who takes the time to understand you and your unique circumstances and will guide you patiently through your divorce.

You can check out this online Divorce Workshop for Woman packed with everything you need to know about the divorce process in Israel, how to prepare your kids for divorce and managing your finances.

If you have questions about getting divorced in Israel you can email Jay Hait directly at  jay.hait@orcheidin.co.il.  Or call (077) 200-8161 in Israel and (201) 696 – 3947 in the USA. Jay Hait has offices in Tel Aviv, Haifa, Raanana and Jerusalem. http://israeldivorcelawyer.com/

About the Author
Soon after returning to Israel with his family fom a 14 year hiatus in the US, American born and bred attorney Jay Hait went through a vicious divorce exposing him to the dark side of family law in Israel. When it was all over and he came out with custody over his young children, Jay switched from corporate to family law because he knew that there had to be a better way -even within the confines of the Israeli legal system.
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