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No, Lesbians are not going the way of the Dodo. But there are a few Lesbian opinion leaders who claim that Lesbians are like endangered species but without any facts to support their claim. What is going on?
Trans-phobia and Other Hatred
Let me first clarify that being Feminist, Gay, Lesbian, or Bisexual does not make a person holy, better, or left-wing, automatically. I remember this top neo-Nazi in the Netherlands who was Gay and wanted a platform as a neo-Nazi in the Gay Community — no joke. The Gay Community leaders responded: any GLB person is welcome but not to promote hatred.
TERFs are Trans-Excluding Radical Feminists. They form a hate group by Feminists trying to invalidate Trans-people. If a Gay activist can be a Nazi, a Feminist can be a hater of Trans-people, for sure. (Though a difference exists. Gay is an identity, Feminist a conviction. But, progressives are not necessarily free from bigotry, as I blogged before.)
There is only a handful of TERFs so they don’t give Feminists a bad name. But they do play an important role in trashing Trans-genders, especially in the UK. I’ve blogged about this numerous times.
Some of the TERFs are Lesbians who now claim that Lesbians are endangered to go extinct because of Trans-people. It sounds, at first, totally nuts. So, could there be any reason for their false claim?
I think there might be. Though the claim is still nonsense.
Timeline of More Options
At first, any healthy normal person was considered Straight. There are still communities and countries that deny the existence of any other type.
And, one could be a man or a woman and that was it.
Slowly, very slowly, the awareness grew that Gays and Lesbians don’t only exist in every group of people, but, on average, even close to 5%.
It took even more years before some acknowledgment grew that there are True Bisexuals, men and women who can have equally satisfying sexuality and relationships with men as with women.
Public awareness of Trans-genders was also slow. Psychiatrists already a century ago understood that that cannot be changed with psychotherapy, so the only way to help some extreme cases of sex unhappiness was a sex change. But, this awareness grew very slowly on the general population.
The sum-total of the above was that men and women received 6 options (we’ll abbreviate Lesbian as G(ay) and opposite Trans comes C(is)): SC, ST, GC, GT, BS, BT. That was a nice start. However, this would work best for most men but many women could not find themselves within those narrow ridged options. Many preferred ‘without label,’ or ‘I don’t know.’
Meanwhile, self-chosen labels for everyone mushroomed. Pansexual meant that gender was not important for their partner choice. Some people started calling themselves Bi-Gender, Non-Gender, A-Sexual, etc.
I think that especially women, whose sexuality seems more flexible than men’s, saw their options for non-Straight Cis women swell. There used to ‘be’ just Lesbians and Bisexual women; suddenly, women started calling themselves all kinds of other things. I think that that alarmed some Lesbians, as if they would end up without fellow-Lesbians. Not, of course.
Freaking Out, Seeking a Scapegoat
But some of these alarmed women decided to blame the Trans-men who betrayed their biological sex and wanted to be recognized as men — the ultimate anti-Feminist betrayal — for a woman, but not for a Trans-guy.
Yes, women who used to call themselves Lesbians or Bisexuals, now would call themselves A-sexual, Trans-gender men, Questioning, Queer, etc. But there is no sign that all Lesbians will disappear. And it is neither true that especially Trans-liberation robbed Lesbians of their numbers.
But that’s what must be happening for the Lesbians who blame Trans-men for endangering Lesbian survival. NB: 1.5% of all women call themselves Lesbian now, and 0.03% identify as Trans-men. That means that there are 50 times more Lesbians than Trans-men. Trans-people are an extremely vulnerable group, easy to pick on, but they are not to blame here.
In fact, no one is to blame. Women have more options and not every non-majority woman will now identify as Lesbian. Get over it, I would say.
And it seems too that some of the anti-Trans Lesbians envy the attention Trans-youths are getting. Well, they can be jealous of all youths having it better now. But, should they be jealous of those who have it the hardest?
Meanwhile, almost no Lesbian bothers anybody on what they want to call themselves. The anti-Trans sentiments only come from a few but very loud women. As I said above, that doesn’t hurt women, Feminism, Lesbians, or Bi-sexual women; but it fortifies the oppression of Trans-genders and self-hatred and hopelessness among Trans-people, and it needs to stop.