The Simchat Torah Pogrom was very traumatic, but we can all heal
Sophisticated talk on how to heal trauma often is just an academic mantra. When you try to heal, it’s very different from what some books say.
It’s nothing complicated and a lot of common sense.
A. If you want to get dry, first, step away from the shower or close the tap. And then, you take a towel and dry yourself. So, in healing, first, remove yourself from what traumatizes. No more pictures and clips with painful images. No more news readers, podcasters, and commentators trying to scare or hurt you, making you worried and addicted enough to crave them.
B. Cut all stuff that distracts, numbs, or excites your brain, and then feel. If you’re sad, cry. It heals. If you’re scared, tense, or worried, make fun of it. The laughs and shivers heal your tensions. If you’re numb or furious, whisper about it until you cry or shiver. It heals your upsets. If you feel lonely, talk or write about it. Fresh sharing heals. Nightmares, too, need to be shared. It heals. When talked about enough, they won’t return.
It’s bad enough to have been badly hurt. Recovery can be helped by acknowledging and confirming that it is serious. But don’t add despair.
It’s very serious means: It’s worthy of time and attention. It doesn’t mean you’ll be hurting forever. When It’s bad enough, we need not add drama.
Big traumas warrant more time in therapy, not it’s hopeless.
While we listen to someone going through terrible trauma, our hearts may break. Bystanders suffer a lot since we feel more powerless than victims. So, we must remember that while they discharge their distress, they are healing. Be happy you see someone healing and assist them by listening.