Feeling Others’ Pain

The Roman poet Horace wrote, “It is your affair when your neighbor’s house is on fire.” For two kinds of people, it is of concern for two types of reasons.

Some worry about the neighbor’s house being on fire solely because theirs might catch fire. Such people judge every social event in terms of how it might affect them. How will this policy touch upon my taxes, my school system or my health care? Such a view is not wrong, but it is limited.

The second is the one who is also concerned because someone else is suffering. This is the person who evaluates the world not only through the lens of self-interest (for we all do that) but through the lens of the other as well. This is the Jewish attitude.

Hillel’s famous dictum — “If I am not for myself, who will be for me?” — is followed immediately by, “If I am only for myself, what am I?” Hillel does not even know how to define a person who cares only for him or herself. Even if fire stops at the neighbor’s house, we should feel a bit burned too.

Rabbi David Wolpe is spiritual leader of Sinai Temple in Los Angeles. Follow him on Twitter: @RabbiWolpe. His latest book is “David: The Divided Heart” (Yale University Press).


About the Author
Named the most influential Rabbi in America by Newsweek Magazine and one of the 50 most influential Jews in the world by the Jerusalem Post, David Wolpe is the Rabbi of Sinai Temple in Los Angeles, California.