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Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews -- For those who like their news and truths frank and sharp

Fifty ways to tone it down

Even if you think our survival depends on you yelling and being heard

Despite popular media and activists’ claims to the contrary:

Our democracy is not on the verge of collapse

Israel is not divided or weak

Accusations don’t equal guilt

Netanyahu is not a convicted crook or criminal

Chareidi draft dodging does not endanger us

Disproportional is a fancy word for wrong

Not every dispute means one or two sides are crazy or evil

Almost every outrage can be taken with a ton of salt

Being angry doesn’t prove you’re right

The more you yell, the fewer hear you

Being treated unfairly does not justify being unfair

Admit that catastrophic conclusions are an illusory exaggeration

Disagreement and discussion are normal in the democratic process

While anger is better than depression, calm confidence is still better

Try to place yourself in the position of your opponents (empathy)

Facts over feelings, logic over fury

When many agree with you, you can still be wrong

Blaming is easy; jointly building a better future is much harder

If you can’t listen and only talk, you’re not building a great case

Labeling people is often a lazy, irresponsible demonization

Calling others evil and hating them doesn’t prove you’re good and loving

Evil doesn’t deserve a platform, but I bet not all your opponents are evil

Those wounded deserve sympathy but not automatic agreement

Aim at issues, not at people

Protests cannot replace democracy

People not getting along is not always a scandal

Anxious doesn’t mean (your) quick fixes must be executed right now

Crazy as it may sound, the others might be right too

You might be too angry to see a fuller, larger picture

Humbly stating the truth gets a better following than trying to incite

Generally, lying for a good cause is not a good thing

If any compromise or delay is out for you, you might be in the wrong

Being upset cannot erase the need to find logical arguments

This too will pass

Don’t hurt people

Just breathe

No setback proves that now, all is lost

Your children need you to calm down

Being powerful means projecting hope and confidence, not making noise

Being angry feels powerful and safe but makes others feel unsafe

Fight to strengthen the desirable more than to weaken the undesirable

Watching too much television drama is bad for your emotional health

Unfortunately, lying is part of politics and is done by almost everyone

The more you panic, the greater the chance a con artist will mislead you

Being drunk with anger may feel great to the mad but looks terrible to us

The most honest politician is really the best and biggest liar

Many look for a Jewish fall guy instead of being angry at the terrorists

Jewish infighting is letting the true enemies win

Having a punny slogan doesn’t mean you’re right

If it’s illegal, go to the police or court—don’t slander people

You should not break the law if there is no legal way to get what you want

Being long-term optimistic wins more allies than short-term pessimistic

Many are jealous of Bibi’s success, and it isn’t looking good on them

Bibi masterfully leads a war against many real enemies—be grateful

Don’t say about others what you don’t want others to say about you

NB: When you point a finger, three point at you, and one at Heaven (G^d).

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About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, previously a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He often makes his readers laugh, mad, or assume he's nuts—close to perfect blogging. He's proud that his analytical short comments are removed both from left-wing and right-wing news sites. None of his content is generated by the new bore on the block, AI. * As a frontier thinker, he sees things many don't yet. He's half a prophet. Half. Let's not exaggerate. Or not at all because he doesn't claim G^d talks to him. He gives him good ideas—that's all. MM doesn't believe that people observe and think in a vacuum. He, therefore, wanted a broad bio that readers interested can track a bit what (lack of) backgrounds, experiences, and educations contribute to his visions. * This year, he will prioritize getting his unpublished books published rather than just blog posts. Next year, he hopes to focus on activism against human extinction. To find less-recent posts on a subject XXX among his over 2000 archived ones, go to the right-top corner of a Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". One can find a second, wilder blog, to which one may subscribe too, here: https://mmvanzuiden.wordpress.com/ or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * Like most of his readers, he believes in being friendly, respectful, and loyal. However, if you think those are his absolute top priorities, you might end up disappointed. His first loyalty is to the truth. He will try to stay within the limits of democratic and Jewish law, but he won't lie to support opinions or people when don't deserve that. (Yet, we all make honest mistakes, which is just fine and does not justify losing support.) He admits that he sometimes exaggerates to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * Sometimes he's misunderstood because his wide and diverse field of vision seldomly fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what some love about him. He has written a lot about Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (including basic statistics), Politics (Israel, the US, and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight reality), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA+, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), the Climate Crisis, Ecology and Veganism, Affairs from the news, or the Torah Portion of the Week, or new insights that suddenly befell him. * Chronologically, his most influential teachers are his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim, Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. This short list doesn't mean to disrespect others who taught him a lot or a little. One of his rabbis calls him Mr. Innovation [Ish haChidushim]. Yet, his originalities seem to root deeply in traditional Judaism, though they may grow in unexpected directions. In fact, he claims he's modernizing nothing. Rather, mainly basing himself on the basic Hebrew Torah text, he tries to rediscover classical Jewish thought almost lost in thousands of years of stifling Gentile domination and Jewish assimilation. (He pleads for a close reading of the Torah instead of going by rough assumptions of what it would probably mean and before fleeing to Commentaries.) This, in all aspects of life, but prominently in the areas of Free Will, Activism, Homosexuality for men, and Redemption. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, and disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed. He aims to bring a fresh perspective rather than harp on the obvious and familiar. When he can, he loves to write encyclopedic overviews. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds should be disputed. In short, his main political positions are among others: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, anti those who abuse democratic liberties, anti the fake ME peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, pro-Science, pro-Free Will, anti-blaming-the-victim, and for down-to-earth, classical optimism, and happiness. Read his blog on how he attempts to bridge any tensions between those ideas or fields. * He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (https://diethylstilbestrol.co.uk/studies/des-and-psychological-health/), born in 1953 to his parents who were Dutch-Jewish Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork. He grew up a humble listener. It took him decades to become a speaker too, and decades more to admit to being a genius. But his humility was his to keep. And so was his honesty. Bullies and con artists almost instantaneously envy and hate him. He hopes to bring new things and not just preach to the choir. * He holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam) – is half a doctor. He practices Re-evaluation Co-counseling since 1977, is not an official teacher anymore, and became a friendly, powerful therapist. He became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he was active in hasbara to the Dutch-speaking public. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having an original peek outside of your cultural bubble. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me. * His newest books you may find here: https://www.amazon.com/s?i=stripbooks&rh=p_27%3AMoshe-Mordechai%2FMaurits+van+Zuiden&s=relevancerank&text=Moshe-Mordechai%2FMaurits+van+Zuiden&ref=dp_byline_sr_book_1
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