From Wants to Needs: A Journey Back to Eden
Ecclesiastes 1:9, “Whatever was is what will be.” The love the Jewish people have instilled in the world over the many thousands of years is the bedrock to all humanity. Adam knew this intrinsically from the moment of creation as he learned the nature of every animal and named them. Eve’s first living memory was one where she was intimately attached to Adam and through love conceived and birthed her children. It was the snake’s lustful seduction that influenced her to eat and feed her husband, which led to our current life struggles. The pattern of failure only came about once we humans desired ‘wants’ over ‘needs.’
The ability to differentiate between what is and what seems good came about when the taste of lust entered our vernacular. Until that fateful moment, we were the King’s children; there was a lack of desire since we were provided all our needs on a golden platter before we even knew we needed them; our food was delivered prior to our hunger. This allowed us to focus on building and creating from the red line up instead of fixing and climbing out of debt. We allowed ourselves to incur a debt which has taken until now to repay. The sense of desire awoke, and choice became our only tool. Now that desire runs our life, we must use it but choose wisely.
It should be our greatest desire to go back to the time of abundance where desire is no longer our gravitational pull. Being in love without even trying, just like Noah and Allie at their last breath. As one starts shedding their wants and sticks to the basic primality of life, they recognize that true joy is derived from simplicity. Disconnecting from everything and just using the primal features we were born with allows us to intimately connect with others, body, mind, and soul. There is no desire for even a candle in the nighttime as it is used for the purpose of its creation, and as we all agree, it is in those late-night conversations that two souls truly bond with each other. It is literally ‘next level.’
Luckily for us, we can only think of one thing at a time, and if we just learn how to focus, all stress fades away. We may want to focus on our relationship with God, a spouse, or children, but as long as we don’t shut off everything else, it is only a matter of time before we get distracted by something shinier. A conscious effort is needed to reach that sweet point when we break through and start cruising. Much like a runner who needs to push and pump adrenaline through the body and not give up as their feet start sending them pain signals, since it is only when that regulation kicks in and the blood flow and breathing stabilize that another twenty miles becomes a goal instead of a challenge.
As long as we remain focused and principled in our decision, we will reach that point and reap the benefits of our struggle. This is the essence of choice. We hear the terms, “Communication is key,” or “Focus is key,” or all the other keys people have found in their lives, but we must remember that holding the key is nothing if we don’t use it. What good will it do if we have the knowledge to get through the door but we never actually walk through it? So, how do we use the key? With focus. So how do we focus?
Imagine being in a conversation with another, all the while thinking that you need to focus on what they are saying; what ends up happening is that you don’t end up focusing since all you’re doing is thinking that you need to focus. The act of focusing is done when you are fully engaged with the topic at hand. And instead of worrying that the wedding is almost over, how about you grab a dancing partner and make the most out of the next few minutes? Learning how to intimately engage with the moment is not just key; it is you using the key to get through the door into bliss.
It is the return to ‘what was’ by actively creating the ‘what will be.’ Meaning, the ability to escape time is by using it properly. We wish to go back to a time where time was irrelevant to our lives, where it was all about the cherished moment in front of us right now, living in the present together with our Father and King, the Omnipresent. To live with the unwavering belief that our needs will be fulfilled as we connect to our surroundings with love. Dropping the wants and making the most of our needs is how we come as close as we can to returning to our original factory settings.
Each of us is a puzzle piece in the grand jigsaw; we all have our perfect bumps and curves, blending in beautifully if only we find the right spot for us to lay our heads. If only we knew in which place on the table our piece must land, we would simply sit and wait for everyone else to come and join to finish the masterpiece. But, we are lost in a large pile among so many other lost souls; we try connecting with this and then with that, searching for love in a world so unknown. Our desires push us from side to side and our wants overtake our true intrinsic purpose in life. The lack of strength to push through the uncomfortable moments doesn’t allow us to break through to a life of cruising in love.
It is with our primal instincts and traits that we will ultimately get to our destination, and with the key of focus, we will all find that we fit perfectly with each other. Yes, we will surely fall into lustful traps along the way and, even with the knowledge of the key, will end up seeking comfort in the place of true love, but it is imperative that we clearly know the goal we are headed toward. We cannot allow the snake to slither into our inbox and remove our focus again, for where has it gotten us, and what good will it do if we allow ourselves to be entrapped by him again? “It’s a ‘Fool me once,’ kind of situation.”
This lesson applies to every aspect of life, be it business, family, or spirituality; it doesn’t matter since all of our actions here on Earth are simple relationships. We learn different levels of love from each one of them, and we gain lessons from the insights they all offer. But what holds true for all of them is that with focus and determination, it is all possible, since once we reach the realm of infinite love, the possibilities are endless. It is our work on Earth to connect with others so that we can learn love, for once that taste is acquired, there is no stopping that desire until we live with the ultimate and undying love that rises beyond time. All hate and anger will vanish as love conquers Earth and Heaven and all death will be gone as the cruise of eternal life sets in. Every moment will be cherished and valued, and so every expenditure of time won’t be defined by time at all, for it is our only desire to use our days bringing ourselves out of debt and into the clear. That clarity we’ve been searching for so long, awaits on the other side of time.
David Lemmer is a Orthodox Jewish Writer and Hypnotherapist. He can be reached at LemmerHypno@gmail.com