Wendy Kalman
There are many ways to see and understand

Helping others

When someone brings you soup, you're already on the mend (photo by MaxStraeten courtesy of morguefile.com)

Last week, I came down with a humdinger of a cold. For a few days, I was so wiped out, I was taking a nap in the morning and another in the afternoon. It’s since moved from its first sore throat and tired phase to the next one, a non-stop runny nose. Given fears of Coronavirus, I’m not looking forward to phase three, the cough.

Lucky for me, I work from home most of the time. So I don’t have to make anyone nervous. And can keep my germs to myself.

Yes, I’ve been taking zinc to shorten the lifespan and yes, I’ve been taking other over the counter stuff. And thankfully, we have a supply of tissues on hand. But the best part of suffering from a cold is knowing that I’m not home alone having to take care of myself. I’ve been washing hands religiously and wiping down surfaces, so my husband’s stayed healthy and as my provider of bowls and bowls of soup and toast, I am forever indebted.

But this is not the first time I am thanking him publicly. Last summer, I wrote about my rotator cuff surgery. Coming home from that was no easy task. Six weeks in a special sling, needing to ice for days on end, limitation of movement (I still go for physical therapy once a week), and my husband helped me through all of it. I am beyond grateful, especially when I remember what it was like when I was a single parent and got sick.

Then, as now, I can’t help but think of those who live alone, especially older folks who may feel more challenged navigating everyday life to begin with. This also makes me think of matanot l’evyonim, one of Purim’s four mitzvot give to the needy. Not everyone has someone who can help.

Locally, I belong to a few Facebook groups which are dedicated to helping individuals. Moderated by good souls doing all the legwork, they are wonderful ways to make an immediate impact.

I’ve also found a few charitable organizations that have dedicated programs for matanot l’evyonim, in case you want to help mark this holiday with a mitzvah. If it’s too late to give to these specific programs for this year, I am sure they’d welcome aid in other ways.

No matter what you do or where you do it, even in this time of Coronavirus and fear or contagion, there are always ways to help others. Feel free to list your favorite ways in the comments.

About the Author
Born in Brooklyn and raised on Long Island, Wendy lived in Jerusalem for over a decade submerged in Israeli culture. Since returning to the U.S. in 2003; she has been soaked in Southern life in metro Atlanta. An Ashkenazi mom to Mizrahi sons born in Israel and the US, MIL to a French Mizrahi DIL and an Israeli DIL whose parents are also an interesting mix, and a step mom to sons born in the South, she celebrates trying to see from multiple perspectives and hope this comes out in her blogs. Wendy recently wrapped up work as a researcher for an Israel education nonprofit and completed two master's degrees in public administration and integrated global communication, and is looking for her next opportunity. Her interest in resolving conflict had her also taking a grad school class on conflict management and completing certification as a human rights consultant, Wendy's interests also have her digging deep into genealogy and bringing distant family together. All of this is to say, Wendy's life has brought her to the widened framework she uses for her blogs: there are many ways to see and understand.
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