Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

How to quit road stress?

Are driving your car to and from work and being stuck on the road some of your greatest daily stresses? Here are some tips.

Quit your job or move to reduce or eliminated commuter time. Save the environment and work close to or from home.

Feel for your fellow travelers and stay home.

Change (some of) your work and travel times to escape “rush” hour.

Carpool to only drive part of the rides.

Take a job in a car with a siren (police, fire brigade, ambulance).

Take public transportation and treat traveling time as opportunities to catch up with anything you want (sleeping, eating, tooth-brushing, shaving, nail-polishing, praying, learning, calling, writing, reading, gaming, watching, etc.). Meanwhile, save money and the environment.

Laugh it off. Anything. How someone almost killed you (or worse: almost damaged your car). How rude others seem. How irresponsible. How stupid. Find an excuse for them (they’re probably very tired or desperate) or say: it’s not so bad, it worked out well. Forgive them. Blame it on the non-Jews who stressed us out for thousands of years.

Stop calling others names. What used to make you fuming is actually an invitation to stop finding “good reasons” to be angry. Become mellow, good-natured, good-humored, peace-loving, relaxed and even confident. Cry if you need to, to solidify the change.

Look at the cars behind you. Half of the full road is behind you.

Smile at the people around you, blow them a kiss (lock your doors first), be happy for no good reason and show it. Tell yourself good jokes.

Put up some good music or lectures, safety permitting.

Put on the car’s roof a lightshow and some powerful speakers bellowing upbeat music.

Put funny (non-offensive) bumper stickers all around the car. Always search for new ones to cheer up your fellow travelers.

Quit hurrying. Besides, stop hurrying.

Be a defensive, not an offensive driver.

Travel with an animal or doll you can talk to. (Don’t leave the animal alone in the car.)

Make your car the place where you practice your best attitudes and take your accomplishments into your other quarters (home, work, sport, street).

Try to spot the best driver of the day and marvel about it.

Plan some of your meetings not in the office or at home but during your commute. (Your passenger gets better views than in the office or at home and a free ride.)

Tell yourself over-and-over again that the feeling of autonomy or efficiency is worth the daily agony and the costs. When you don’t believe that anymore, sell your car.

Do it for you. To become a better person. To create a better world. To live longer.

About the Author
The author is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (DES - Diethylstilbestrol), born in 1953 to two Dutch Holocaust survivors in The Netherlands (Westerbork), and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a vegan for 8 years now. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo and Rav Zev Leff. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. His fields of attention are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine, Science, Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism), Oppression and Liberation (of young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners, and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation) and Veganism. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. * He likes doing age-appropriate and age-inappropriate things and looks forward to getting to know his timeless mature out-of-the-box soul mate. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.