Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

Insights and chances from Jeffrey Epstein’s suicide

Most people who — always in a passing flare-up of despair — unfortunately (try to) kill themselves do so from feeling unable to face a very difficult situation. But such an emotional collapse does not take place in the case of big-time abusers. Shame and conscience never troubled them and will also not suddenly, at the end of their road.

Rather, this kind of suicide comes from being control freaks — no need for any conspiracy theory here. (Epstein’s self-inflicted death also explains why he didn’t admit or defend himself.) Without any chance to escape a negative verdict, they don’t need their day in court. Judge nor jury are going to decide for them anything and they even determine their time of death. They feel it as having the last laugh. And it comes across as such. Their victims don’t feel relief that their torturer, in fact, received a death penalty but rather feel he cheated and escaped justice.

Epstein’s suicide doesn’t stand in contrast with his earlier desire to have his brain and testicles deep-frozen for supposed later revival. This wish to live on physically stems also from an aspiration to wield utter control. Trying to cheat reality, science, and death had to serve his overblown ego that all big abusers suffer from — and their victims suffer under. Also his wish to upgrade human intelligence, easily seems self-serving.

Yes, it is a pity that he didn’t admit, repent, and ask for forgiveness. But to get there, is a very difficult step, often beyond our human ability for those who went too wrong for too long — as the Biblical story of Pharaoh’s stubbornness warns (Exodus 4, 7, 9-11, 14).

However, Epstein’s death gives several good opportunities that should not be missed.

First of all, there is not going to be a trial with Epstein in the dock. This doesn’t make his victims less heroic for coming forward. They still can make their cases publicly. But it saves them the duty to have to face ruthless cross-examination. Yet, enablers of Epstein may still be charged.

As for revenge, that’s something to deal with later in the healing process. ‘Confronting’ him during a trial would have given them no satisfaction at all. Predictably, everyone would have ‘been amazed’ by his stoic emotionless facial expression. He wouldn’t have given anyone any pleasure from being moved or angered by anything.

Secondly, the victims’ claims for damages are still valid, now against his estate rather than his person. Those allegedly conned, dishonored or abused by him may have an easier time to retrieve some serious money.

Especially the emergence of his secret very detailed diaries should be a goldmine for his victims. And also for journalists, those guards of our democratic society, who should mine them to find out what the makers and shakers of the world possibly had been up to. Yet, his private notes regarding the powerful should not be accepted just like that, since no doubt, he intended to use them to pressure and blackmail them so they may be (partly) false. In contrast, his financial or sexual victims should be immediately believed when their claims correspond with his entries.

For the average person, the humbling lesson and warning from this tale of richness and power should be how dangerous money and control are and to what unethical failure and immoral depth they can lead.

About the Author
The author is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (DES - Diethylstilbestrol), born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a vegan for 8 years now. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me. To see other blog posts by him, a second blog - under construction - can be found by clicking on the Website icon next to his picture.
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