Bloggers who attack LGBTQ people are dramatically down. Unfortunately, bloggers defending gay rights still are largely elusive. And now we have a novelty: what appears to be a cis-gendered straight man complaining he’s refused a job because of his sexual orientation and sex, which in New York State is illegal. As a cis-gender heterosexual man, does he have a case?
More common are men who claim to be oppressed when their automatic privilege is threatened. No, men are not oppressed as men. They may be treated unfairly, but oppressed no. I always explain it like this: Woman hits man: abusive. Man hits woman: abusive and oppressive. Such cases of “oppression of men” always take place against a backdrop of rampant sexism. Feminist laws are not only meant to offer fairness to women. Men should be for them. But, when unfairly treated men feel no solidarity with the thousand-fold unfairness poured over their sisters, that bothers me.
Not unusual are gay women and men who claim to have been ‘cured,’ but often also share how disgusted they feel about the people they previously shared the boat with figuratively. I would think that someone coming out straight would be a tremendous fighter against homophobia. Not so.
I would think that a blogger who complains to have been sidelined as a straight guy would feel tremendous solidarity with homosexuals and trans-people, who are discriminated against every day of their lives. Not so. He labeled his post with the LGBTQ tag but that was it. Not enough for me.
As a man, I’ve been tremendously unjustly treated by Israeli laws that overprotected women. However, I always stressed when sharing how unfairly I was treated that I understood why the laws were like that and that women needed protective laws more than any man. And that’s what I expect from everyone treated unfairly ‘because of’ a privileged status.
A straight cis-man, unfairly treated as such, must watch out not to begin playing the new oppressed (as if the previously oppressed were set free). As I already wrote about women called TERFS and Super-Straight men.
Don’t try to fool or confuse anyone. You’re not the oppressed here. Maybe in another setting, yes, but not relative to homosexuals, transgenders, or women. Straights, cis-genders, and men are not oppressed as such. Period.