Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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New in sexual orientation job discrimination, a rejection of a straight cis-man?

Bloggers who attack LGBTQ people are dramatically down. Unfortunately, bloggers defending gay rights still are largely elusive. And now we have a novelty: what appears to be a cis-gendered straight man complaining he’s refused a job because of his sexual orientation and sex, which in New York State is illegal. As a cis-gender heterosexual man, does he have a case?

More common are men who claim to be oppressed when their automatic privilege is threatened. No, men are not oppressed as men. They may be treated unfairly, but oppressed no. I always explain it like this: Woman hits man: abusive. Man hits woman: abusive and oppressive. Such cases of “oppression of men” always take place against a backdrop of rampant sexism. Feminist laws are not only meant to offer fairness to women. Men should be for them. But, when unfairly treated men feel no solidarity with the thousand-fold unfairness poured over their sisters, that bothers me.

Not unusual are gay women and men who claim to have been ‘cured,’ but often also share how disgusted they feel about the people they previously shared the boat with figuratively. I would think that someone coming out straight would be a tremendous fighter against homophobia. Not so.

I would think that a blogger who complains to have been sidelined as a straight guy would feel tremendous solidarity with homosexuals and trans-people, who are discriminated against every day of their lives. Not so. He labeled his post with the LGBTQ tag but that was it. Not enough for me.

As a man, I’ve been tremendously unjustly treated by Israeli laws that overprotected women. However, I always stressed when sharing how unfairly I was treated that I understood why the laws were like that and that women needed protective laws more than any man. And that’s what I expect from everyone treated unfairly ‘because of’ a privileged status.

A straight cis-man, unfairly treated as such, must watch out not to begin playing the new oppressed (as if the previously oppressed were set free). As I already wrote about women called TERFS and Super-Straight men.

Don’t try to fool or confuse anyone. You’re not the oppressed here. Maybe in another setting, yes, but not relative to homosexuals, transgenders, or women. Straights, cis-genders, and men are not oppressed as such. Period.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500th blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * To find his earlier blog posts on a certain subject XXX, among his over 1200 ones, go to the right-top corner of the Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". His second daily active less tame blog, to which one may subscribe, one may find here: or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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