The art of moving on and letting go

Dear friend, we’re in the time of transition now as we move closer to 2025. Now is the time to move on. I know a lot about moving on, as well as about the complexities of the human mind. You say, ”Adam, how can you know so much about these things, you’re kinda young.” Well, someone told me I’d already gone through more in life than many people go through in their lifetime. I’ve had to meander between all sorts of people in all sorts of cultures (yes, including the Chinese psychic). Interact with them and, when needed, confront them. I know the games people play – rarely saying what they mean and rarely meaning what they say. I traveled all the way to Honolulu, Moscow, Chengdu, Beijing, Jerusalem, Cairo, Chicago, LA, London, NYC, and so on. Not in that order, to be clear. I’ve stopped traveling internationally because of all the mess in the world and some other matters to deal with, but travel I shall – again.

So, about the art of moving on. Everything is an art these days, right? Yeah, right.

People tell you to move on, but rarely, if ever, do they clarify what it means. To move on, you need a plan what to do next. That simple, yet so hard for so many people to grasp. It’s just like with writing a novel. It’s good to have an idea for the second novel when you still haven’t started writing the first. You need something to absorb your mind after one project ends. You need your next project. You can’t just say, ”I’m moving on,” and that’s it. You need the next chapter to focus on. Otherwise, you’ll be stuck in the past, playing the same scenario in your head over and over again. Your mind needs new focus.

When do you move on? Well, ask yourself: is a particular project worth it? What do you get out of it? If not the money aka shekels, then there must be something else. An audience, maybe? The satisfaction of sharing your ideas with an audience at a critical time in history, for example. There has to be something and you must define what it is.

If you see there are no benefits, if you feel like your effort is going into a void, then I suggest you close that chapter and move on to the next, more sensible and profitable, chapter. I don’t believe God wants us to stick to one project for too long if there are no tangible benefits. If you get the feeling to move on, do it. The Lord is whispering in your ear to find another project, another path. Not everyone is going to like it. Some are going to get nasty when they realize you no longer give them what they want. Their mask is likely going to drop. What, you think I’m too cynical? I’m not. Magic money aka skehels makes people drop their masks like you wouldn’t believe. Inheritance cases. Ring a bell? Amazing how people change and how some uncle of yours (Schlomo Shlekenstein, it’s a funny name to my Polish ears, sorry) you’ve never seen before crawls out of the woodwork just when he smells shekels. You don’t think it’s that bad? Well, then maybe you’re lucky. Or maybe you pretend not to see. I prefer clarity but some prefer blissful ignorance. I get that. Not my problem.

It’s like with an employer who pats you on the back, and talks about authenticity and kindness, but changes quickly when you mention a raise, for example. Don’t let these people play you. I recommend having a lawyer acquaintance or someone well-versed in these mind games to ask for help if need be. What you can do is forward a message sent to you by your boss, or anyone you suspect is playing games with you, to cross-check with your friend, for example. Or someone well-versed in the games people and psychopaths play.

These manipulative types tend to back down quickly (not always, some are brazen as heck) when they know you see right through them. Don’t expect an apology, or anything like that, of course. That’s never going to happen. Just move on. Revenge or holding grudges is a waste of time. As we sometimes say in Polish, ”Tylko służba się obraża.” Only servants hold grudges. Don’t hold grudges, it’s pointless. Just move on to your next project.

Some people say you can’t call things out like that because it’s disturbing the peace. Well, sweet, go on living in the ballet la-la land with swan lake in your ear while the world goes to hell and scammers run rampant. The people who get triggered by any kind of conflict, particularly when a scammer must be confronted head-on, are just like the small-minded censors hiding behind Kafkaesque anonymity, but some are going to be brazen and try to shout you down for being a nuisance (the irony). Not the scammer, not the – simply put -bad guy. No – you.

Then again, some schemers and manipulators use the disturbing the peace argument because they want to shut you up and accusing you of making a scene works like a charm when you’re surrounded by fools who don’t know what’s going on and are under the scammer’s spell. Be it at work, or anywhere else, if you see people using such tactics, get the hell out of there if you can. Plan how to move on, find another job, but don’t advertise your intentions. Dobra mina do złej gry, as we say in Polish. ”Put on a good face for a bad game.” You won’t change these people. They are often legends in their own minds and you can’t get through to them. I’ve met more than my fair share. Their entire ego, entire sense of self, depends on that grandiose vision of themselves. Showing them the truth can cause them to break down like you’ve never seen before. You don’t need primadonna drama. Get out of there. Move on. If you don’t, that psychopath or pathological narcissist is going to drag you down with them.

Don’t stick to some misguided notion of honor, ideals, or principles. Move on when you sense it’s time and things are getting weird around you at work, or anywhere else, for that matter. About the folly of sticking to your principles no matter what. Take a look below.

There are times when you need to be like water – have a malleable mind, adjust accordingly to any situation, play any role, be a chameleon of the mind. Yes, psychopathic. You gotta learn to let people go and move on in a snap. Cut contact in a snap if need be. If someone deserves it, do it and have no regrets. It helps in life. Know when to charm and when to harm, what mask to wear. Having some traits of psychopaths helps in these twisted times. Otherwise, you’ll look like a clownish fool, and possibly a danger to others. But I get it: say something is God’s will, and people are capable of cruelty or clownisms in a snap.

And here you have a song about Warsaw, the title loosely translates, ”You can’t con a Warsaw person.” People from Warsaw have a reputation of seeing right through all sorts of schemes. Some words you might recognize, like bajer, pic, and even cwaniak (a schemer). 0:50 is a nod to Warsaw’s Jewish history. The scene is even better with two stereotypical Polish ”patriots” standing right behind the guy in the yarmulke. I see no contradiction – they might be antisemitic, but the guy is ”one of ours, from Warsaw.” And you don’t touch one of ours.