The Real Danger and How to Deal with it

Some time ago, a prominent Charedi Rav in Chicago made the following offer to members of his shul. Although not a verbatim quote (I don’t recall his exact words) this is essentially was he said, “If you get rid of the internet, I’ll buy you each a television”. He felt that the internet was so bad that he would even be willing to replace it with the ‘forbidden’ TV  if his members would give it up.

If anything was a symbol to the Charedi world of all that is evil American culture — it is television. Which is understandable for a society that seeks to insulate itself from that culture. A TV will bring that culture right into your living-room on a daily basis. Which undermines that goal. And yet he considered the internet so bad that he was willing to offer a TV in exchange for it.

Now I doubt that he actually meant it. He was just making a point. And in one sense he’s right. I am not talking about the ease with which pornography can be accessed in on a smartphone. That in and of itself is reason enough to have apprehension about owing one. I am talking about exposure to ideas that will challenge your faith.

One need not go any further than the comments on my blogs to see how many formerly Orthodox Jews  are now skeptics and atheists. It’s true that they may have become this way without exposure to these websites. But there is not a doubt in my mind that these challenges now so easily accessible is a major contributor and accelerant in this regard. People that might have a serious question about matters of their faith will quickly find answers that will make so much sense to them, it will disabuse them of their formerly sincerely held beliefs.

It takes a strong commitment based years of deep study of one’s essential beliefs; an understanding of the philosophical underpinnings of your beliefs to successfully navigate these areas and remain with your original faith intact. That is what enables many of us that encounter websites like these while maintaining our beliefs. But that is not true in the Charedi world where Torah study consists almost exclusively of studying Gemarah and its many commentaries, none of which deal with the kind of Jewish thought and philosophy that prepares one for such encounters.

I have always maintained (and still do) that the internet is too valuable a tool (increasingly so) to simply discard it in all its many forms. It is becoming virtually impossible to survive without it in the 21st century. I need not go into details since I’m sure anyone reading this already knows that. The advantages are so numerous — they could fill a book. The Charedi argument that one can get along without it is being quickly discarded by many of its members. It reminds me of what R. Yitzchok Zev Solovetichik, said to a young Avreich back in the early 50s when he was asked whether to spend any of his meager funds on a telephone. R. Yitzchok Zev supposedly answered, ‘What do you need a telephone for’?

Well, perhaps in his day, one could live without it. But imagine living without one today?  This is what is happening with the internet only at a much more rapid pace. All the banning, haranguing, and Asifos in the world… won’t change that. Even if all the Gedolim, Chasidic Rebbes, or Sephardic leaders say that you will lose your Olam Habah if you are on the internet and threaten that your children will not be accepted into their schools — they cannot stem the tide. People that otherwise listen to rabbinic leaders like this are ignoring them in this matter like never before.

An article in Ha’aretz tells you the story: Here is an excerpt:

(D)ata from the Bezeq telecommunications company shows a rise in the number of ultra-Orthodox Jews who say they are connected to the Internet. That figure currently stands at 35%, compared to 29% in 2012… For decades, the ultra-Orthodox community isolated itself and grew, becoming more and more extremist and separatist. Now, though, 20 years behind the times, new trends are emerging.


The ultra-Orthodox scene on the Internet is ablaze — with websites, ads, forums, video channels on YouTube, and endless activity on social network sites such as Facebook. Large parts of the community, many of whom could be considered as being on the edges of the mainstream of Haredi society, have embraced the Internet wholeheartedly.

Rabbi Bezalel Cohen, a Charedi Rav in Israel, a makes the following observation:

“The rabbis fear that an intellectual group in the ultra-Orthodox community will be exposed to information and opinions that are not acceptable to the leadership…


There were always curious people who went to libraries and all sorts of other places to gather knowledge,” notes Cohen.  The real change, he adds, has come from the technology’s ability to shorten distances and allow people to interact and build new communities, undermining the rabbinic sources of authority. “The Internet has become a very big tool to organize an underground. Groups were created that developed a dialogue using email and forums. People with an ideological identity connected in a much easier way and found other like-minded people…

Clearly the early approach taken by the Charedi leadership is not working.  While it is true that there has been some concession to reality (especially in America) and the focus is now more on filters, that does not solve the problem. It may reduce or even eliminate the porn. But it will hardly eliminate encounters with websites that challenge your faith. Websites that have answered those questions with a heresy that questioners found more satisfying than answers they were given by their religious teachers. Which in many cases were no answers at all. Just admonitions to dare not ask ‘those kinds of questions’.

That is obviously not going to work anymore as more Charedim get smartphones. While the current 65% may stay ‘safe from the Apikurus’ by living in isolation — that percentage seems to be shrinking. But even if it isn’t, are we willing to write off 35% of the Charedi world?

To me the obvious solution is not to ban these highly useful items.  The solution is to educate. The entire educational system must adapt to the times. We are confronted with a challenge that will not go away.

Educators need to anticipate the kinds of encounters and challenges one will find on the internet and teach their students how to handle it. Educators must themselves be educated to give meaningful answers to difficult questions — even before they are asked. This is the only thing that will work in the long run. Because without it, things like bans, filters, or trading in the internet for a TV is only putting a band-aid on a huge problem that will eventually overpower it.

About the Author
My worldview is based on the philosophy of my teacher, Rabbi Aaron Soloveichik , and the writings of Rabbis Joseph B. Soloveitcihk , Norman Lamm, and Dr. Eliezer Berkovits from whom I developed an appreciation for philosophy. I attended Telshe Yeshiva and the Hebrew Theological College where I was ordained. I also attended Roosevelt University where I received my degree in Psychology.