Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews -- For those who like their news and truths frank and sharp

Women, don’t let feminist slogans bury you deeper in the graveyard of sexism!

It’s not that complicated if you trust your brains and gut feelings

At first, women had to do most of the work in the world while men were ‘busy’ drinking alcohol and smoking tobacco. They would have and raise the children, shop and cook and clean for everyone, provide sexual and emotional services, take all blame, all for free and without much in return.

If they had nice husbands, their work was appreciated.

Then came the feminist demands that women would be entitled to congregate, enjoy higher education, and take paying jobs (and vote).

The forces of oppression translated that into the idea that a liberated woman must make her job and her house a success. The work piled up.

Nice husbands would chip in, in principle. But often, in practice, not.

Meanwhile, medical science didn’t sit still. People got older. Now, women had to take care of their kids and their parents. The sandwich generation.

And now (new!), Jewish women should reclaim the right to learn Talmud.


Well, may I point out why Mrs. Curie got two Nobel Prizes and Mrs. Einstein none? Because only the first got a supportive husband. Ambition is nice, but not while you’re already exploited to the hilt. As compensation, the latter had to share her husband with all kinds of other women.

Rebbetzin Blu Greenberg has an absolute sweetheart for a husband.

So, take it easy with piling more expectations on just any woman.

On top of that, learning Talmud is not for every woman. Just like it is not for every man. That is not a blemish. G^d makes everyone different.

To open up all paying jobs, family care, and higher Jewish learning to all Jewish women is great. To expect all women to ‘fully unfold’ themselves is abusive and sexist. Only with enough support, a woman should take more on her plate. And only after she already has the space and time to take care of her core needs, like sleep, good food, emotional support, etc.

Just saying.

Not the first time I’ve spoken out against an a lack of care for women by people against or for traditional Judaism, and for or against feminism.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500th blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * To find his earlier blog posts on a certain subject XXX, among his over 1200 ones, go to the right-top corner of the Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". His second daily active less tame blog, to which one may subscribe, one may find here: or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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