Shabbat, 10.10.2020 was World Mental Health Awareness Day.
It is getting better and it will get better still
I have written so many blog post crying shame on you to all the religious fanatics who, holier than thou, are plain hateful to non-heterosexuals. And on those who are indifferent, which is the greatest form of hatred.
But enough already! It feels like a voice crying in the wilderness. Let us turn our attention to those who need and deserve extra support. Who did nothing wrong. Who so often are ignored, hated, stigmatized, attacked, ostracized, isolated, pressured to take ‘therapy’ to be brainwashed and ‘cured,’ and blamed for simply being who they are and what they need. (Make no mistake–if they would be celibate, they are hated no less).
It is nice that you are born with more empathy than the average person. (And on average, women have more empathy than men. So, just imagine how much empathy lesbians have!) It’s nice. But direct a little bit more of your mildness toward yourself. More often, thank yourself for surviving.
And when you’re at it, redirect a little of your anger and irritation toward the real enemy, the leaders and followers of callousness and intolerance.
The oppressors are losing popularity. They lost the majority (in Israel and the US and many other countries). But this has only emboldened them into assuming that they are the moral, religious elite. The rabbis who position themselves as bulwarks against modernity and assimilation but who are the epitome of them, talking like modern evangelical hatemongers. And they can do so because gays and their allies are too often too nice.
The change in popular opinion came through your obvious charm and goodness. In the end, most families embrace their non-straight children.
But the state oppression will only end when you and your allies end being so sweet and meek, a few times. The oppression will only lessen when you finally will rise up and cry foul in large enough numbers. I am not blaming the victim. But I am saying that the biggest force of the oppressors is the oppressed and their allies tolerating the oppressors’ claims to superiority.
Please remember that the only thing that is seriously wrong with you is the assumption that there is something seriously wrong with you.
Think of the situation under White slavery. Some slaves would rebel, especially when young. So would some White allies. But the vast majority had no awareness of the injustice, wickedness, or power to resist. But their day would come. So, in your case. One day, the whole world will bend their heads and say: How was this at all possible? How could we?
Meanwhile, stay away from ‘healers’ who love you so much that they want to heal you. That is not love. Stay away from cigarettes and alcohol. You are forced to meet in bars to make you addicted, relaxed, and die early. Resist. Resist the urge to squander your need for intimacy on anonymous sex. You deserve a relationship with real intimacy, a home, and safety.
Things are not always going so well. You might feel worse before it gets better. This Yom Kippur afternoon, again, Leviticus 18:22 was read around the world without a caveat that the Injunction only applies to heterosexual men. Shamelessly, the New York Yeshiva University has just rejected a gathering place for LGBTQ. And two US High Court justices have just threatened to overthrow Gay Marriage (‘marriage equality’). I know.
Keeps us on our toes. But, don’t lose track of the good stuff happening.
Gay activists have just flooded the racist #ProudBoys hashtag so that the racist hateful voices are drowned out by voices of (gay) love! A US court just now, ruled for parental equality, after a lengthy legal battle. So far, at least 574 openly LGBT+ candidates for being lawmakers appear on the ballot for the November 3 US elections. Loud voices compare labeling homosexuals in Poland as less than human with how Jews were talked about before WW II. Just recently, the World Zionist Organization opened an LGBTQAI+ department assisting non-straight, non-cis new immigrants.
It will get better. Never give up. Hang in there so that you may live and be part of the celebrations. Not only the celebrations of human liberation and dignity. The celebrations of you. Try to be there. It gets better. I promise.