You should really split that sea of yours

I once met a woman who hated her husband and wanted a divorce. After speaking with her for over an hour, I found out that all she wanted was a loving, fulfilling marriage with him.
I once met a rebellious teenager who tried to break every law. But a short conversation revealed that he was thirsty for validation, and because of his learning disabilities he reverted to crime. He wanted nothing more than being the star pupil of his school.
I once met an atheist. He said he doesn’t believe in G-d, but when I got to know him I was able to tell how he yearns to have a relationship with G-d.
So often, there is a big discrepancy between what we “want” and what we “really want”.
And the last days of Passover present us with the gift of looking deeper.
The seventh day of Passover is celebrating the splitting of the sea. When you look at the sea, what do you see? (Sorry I couldn’t help myself). You see some water, some waves, but very rarely you are aware of the unbelievable depth, the diverse and unique life hiding beneath the surface.
We need to split our own sea. By looking deeper inside, to look for what we “really want”.
I often think that it’s an easy process. Simply ask yourself: what do I want? And once you answer, ask again – but what do I really want?
Sometimes you need to repeat the process until you get to the real answers.
What do I want?
To go to work.
What do I really want?
To have money.
But what do I really, really want?
To provide for my family.
You see, everything we want has layers upon layers which we need to connect with. If we are stuck in the outer layer, we might miss the big and important picture.
Usually, deep inside, we all want to be connected. Connected to our family. Connected to our friends. Connected to our G-d.
If we keep this in mind, it will help us stay focused.
And this is where the last day of Passover comes in. During the last hours of the holiday (this year on Thursday afternoon), it is customary to enjoy a special meal, titled “Moshiach’s meal”. This tradition is dating to the Baal Shem Tov times, and the Rebbe encouraged everyone to join the tradition. Eating the meal symbolizes our physical yearning and connection to the final redemption.
So what do we want?
For Covid19 to go away.
What do we really want?
To get back to normal life.
What do we really, really want?
That there should be no more suffering in the world.
Oh – exactly. This is what is going to happen with Moshiach comes.
So let’s look inside and pray hard for the days to come, really, really soon.
About the Author
Rabbi Mendy Kaminker is the Chabad Rabbi of Hackensack, and an editorial member of