Ariel’s Anxieties…. A Failed Life

He e-mails me frequently. Most of the time I do not respond. It seems hopeless and will accomplish nothing. Ariel is stubborn. The whole world is wrong. Everyone is an idiot. He is the only sane person left on earth. This is the impression in his bitter e-mails. He is angry with the world.

At almost 30 years of age, he is not married, has no girl friend, lives with his parents and goes from job to job. He is incapable of staying in one job for any length of time.

Ariel is a member of the Bukharan community, very proud of his national and ethnic culture and traditions. He was a good student during his first two years in college, had a pleasant personality, few friends, and had an idea of a goal in his life. He thought once of law enforcement.

Whatever he tries, he finds fault with the work, with the workers, with the boss, with the salary… in short, he is an unhappy person and lives a failed life. At a time when he should consider marriage and family it is far from his mind. And in truth, what young lady would want to marry an unemployed man or one who works part-time for low wages?

He is critical of our Israeli political system, despises Arabs and would demolish them from the face of the earth if he could. He has now made an acquaintance with an Egyptian Copt but politics is a no-no for discussion.

He is a young man, good looking, with capabilities that he does not use. He has low self-esteem, regrettably, and fails to examine his good qualities and put them to use.

In his e-mail messages to me he expresses his anxieties and mainly his constant complaints about the society in which he lives. I think no nation on the globe would satisfy his needs and desires.

I often receive e-mails, some from former students, some from rabbis, many from family and friends and I make a point of replying to each of them. But I’ve stopped replying to Ariel because my words would accomplish nothing but more disagreements. His is a sad tale of a sad and lonely life.

There are an abundance of psychologists and psychiatrists who treat successfully people with similar anxieties but Ariel would say of them “they’re quacks. They don’t know what they’re doing. All they want is my money”. I can almost hear him saying it, even before he has attempted to seek help.

He has skills in wrestling, judo and the martial arts and he could, if he wanted to, put them to good purpose by working with young children as a physical education instructor. I think that would please him, he would be successful at it, and he would receive the kudos and praises from his young pupils which would elevate his self-esteem.

In the 236 of my columns which have been published, I have touched upon many subjects…political, social, historical, religious, Israeli history and Zionism, among others.

This column deals with a tragedy in the life of a young man who could enjoy his life if his attitude was more positive. To be a failure at age 29 or 30 is deplorable. Ariel has many years ahead of him. He should put them to good use and redeem himself by freeing from the anxieties which depress him.

Although I will not continue to reply to his e-mails, in my heart I wish him better luck and success.

About the Author
Esor Ben-Sorek is a retired professor of Hebrew, Biblical literature & history of Israel. Conversant in 8 languages: Hebrew, Yiddish, English, French, German, Spanish, Polish & Dutch. Very proud of being an Israeli citizen. A follower of Trumpeldor & Jabotinsky & Begin.
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