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Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews -- For those who like their news and truths frank and sharp

Disagree with me!

Avoid writings exactly saying what you’d like to read and think

Most of us need a party to belong and to feel sane for others saying what we think. However, this should not turn into a quest for acceptance or addiction to our truth. A lollypop may be nice but not to replace meals.

Mistakes to Discover

We’re bound to misjudge situations. But eventually, we may find out.

I moved to Israel and knew little about politics here. I volunteered: “At least, I know that X is an honest man.” Everyone I said it to rolled their eyes. He was the biggest flattering con of them all.

Victims speak out and you feel for them. Beaten up by her husband, but she seems a fake. Attacked in the street, but so many holes in his story. Survived the concentration camps, but there are no records that say so.

Monumental heroes speak out for decency and morals. Accusing lesser souls. Until we find out they are fakes and the worst abusers of all.

Dutch saying: When the fox quotes Scripture, farmers watch your hens.

When everyone from a family looks furious except for one whom you like because he’s friendly and ‘together,’ that’s the villain.

She counsels alcoholics and doesn’t see that her spouse is drunk 24/7.

If it didn’t happen to you, it did, but you yet haven’t found it out.

Listen to Victims

At first, real victims may exaggerate from rage or desperation. But, when you listen well, nuances will come. If you listen to feminist women, Zionist Jews, LGBTQ and BLM activists, left-wing blue-color workers, stubborn children, and others who are underprivileged but not intimidated or self-haters, it will be harder to be misled by bigotry, hatred, and supremacy. We may have to subtract some rhetoric, but the big picture we’ve got.

We will also more easily identify the overprivileged who typically see and portray themselves as the ‘real’ victims.

Listen to Debates

You can still not be sure if the people are right who say things that you like. You’ll know more after you listened to honest debates between them and opponents. Ignore smooth-talking. Try to spot who brings facts you know to be true. Who goes against popular prejudices and generalizations?

Refuse to not take a position. To be ‘neutral’ about evil is evil. Ask yourself who stands to profit from your indecisiveness and passivity.

Read left-wing news outlets and subtract left-wing bias. Read right-wing news outlets and subtract right-wing bias. Compare the two. Don’t waste your time reading the obvious propaganda: Haaretz, the UN, or Hezbollah calls Israel evil, or the left calls the right dangerous, or vice versa.

From my side, I try not to write what everyone already thinks or accepts.

Be Less Naïve

Most people are decent but naïve. Ask yourself if the one with the necktie could be a crook, a thief, a liar, or a bigot. Naïve people have enemies too.

Maybe the one who sells medical drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, weapons, anti-science fake news, being your friend, really is only out for themselves.

Distrust anyone or any institution that claims to be more than others on the side of truth, reality, and proofs. When someone asks indignantly “Don’t you trust me?” our reflex is to say: “No, sorry, I do.” Warning: This is a very ominous question. No one can require you to trust them. Trust must be won over time. Mistrust anyone who asks this or who flatters you.

Ask yourself who stands to gain from or who paid for this news or poll to be published.

There are no innocent lies. Two strikes, and they should be out.

Remember, people who committed themselves to evil are not crazy (confused) and not stupid (simple). The word is: wicked (immoral). They don’t do this because they are bad but because they are hungry for fame, power, and money, which they misidentify are proper goals in life.

Big con artists only got so successful because they lie the smoothest. The one stammering easily could be the one telling the truth.

It is not shameful to be naïve, but it is blameworthy to stay naïve.

The Bottom Line

In the era of unprecedented lying, use your brain and be an activist.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, an almost daily blog contributor to the Times of Israel, and previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. He often makes his readers laugh, mad, or assume he's nuts—close to perfect blogging. He's proud that his analytical short comments are removed both from left-wing and right-wing news sites. * As a frontier thinker, he sees things many don't yet. He's half a prophet. Half. Let's not exaggerate. He doesn't believe that people observe and think in a vacuum. He, therefore, wanted a broad bio that readers interested can track a bit about what (lack of) backgrounds, experiences, and education contribute to his visions. * To find less-recent posts on subject XXX among his over 1600 archived ones, go to the right-top corner of a Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". One can find a second, wilder blog, to which one may subscribe, here: https://mmvanzuiden.wordpress.com/. * Like most of his readers, he believes in being friendly, respectful, and loyal. Yet, if you think those are his absolute top priorities, you might end up disappointed. His first loyalty is to the truth. He will try to stay within the limits of democratic and Jewish law, but he won't lie to support opinions or people who don't deserve that. He admits that he sometimes exaggerates to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * Sometimes he's misunderstood because his wide and diverse field of vision seldomly fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what some love about him. He has written a lot about Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (including basic statistics), Politics (Israel, the US, and the Netherlands, Activism), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA+, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust, and Jewish Liberation), the Climate Crisis, Ecology and Veganism, Affairs from the news, or the Torah Portion of the Week, or new insights that suddenly befell him. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim, Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, and disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed. He aims to bring a fresh perspective rather than harp on the obvious and familiar. He loves to write encyclopedic overviews. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds should be disputed. In short, his main political positions are among others: anti-Trumpism, anti-elitism, anti-bigotry and supremacy, for Zionism, Intersectionality, and non-violence, anti those who abuse democratic liberties, anti the fake ME peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, pro-Science, pro-Free Will, anti-blaming-the-victim, and for down-to-earth, classical optimism, and happiness. * He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (https://diethylstilbestrol.co.uk/studies/des-and-psychological-health/), born in 1953 to parents who were Dutch-Jewish Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork. He grew up a humble listener. It took him decades to become a speaker too. Bullies and con artists almost instantaneously envy and hate him. * He holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam) – is half a doctor. He practices Re-evaluation Co-counseling since 1977, is not an official teacher anymore, and became a friendly, empowering therapist. He became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids non-violently. For a couple of years, he was active in hasbara to the Dutch-speaking public. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's being a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. He lives with his library in Jerusalem. Feel free to contact him. * His writing has been made possible by a (second-generation) Holocaust survivors' allowance from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having an original peek outside of your cultural bubble.
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