Everyone needs a ‘Jewishness coach’

The effectiveness of coaching speaks for itself. Statistics reveal that 80% of coachees report improved self-confidence, and 70% state that coaching has enhanced their performance. As a result, the coaching industry has expanded to an $11 billion market, encompassing executive coaching, life coaching, parenting coaching, and weight loss coaching.

Have you ever contemplated acquiring a “Jewishness Coach”? Someone with whom you can discuss your Jewish goals and who can hold you accountable for them.

Our Jewishness is one of the most significant aspects of our lives, one we would defend with our very beings. We are proud of the effects we have had on humanity and hold strong feelings about our children cherishing their heritage.

Given this level of importance, our Jewish engagement warrants an objective “annual review.”

Here’s the traditional approach:

Find yourself a Teacher: Identify an individual within your circle who approaches Judaism thoughtfully and earnestly, and with whom you feel at ease being vulnerable. Ask them if they are willing to be your “Jewish coach”.

Arrange a time to converse: Whether over coffee, Kugel, or on the phone, get together and share your Jewish goals and engagement. Judaism is divided into the “buckets” of Torah study, prayer, and good deeds. Talk about each bucket while setting intentional goals for where you want to be. A great way to start the meeting is to study the first two paragraphs of the Shema together.

Follow-up & Check in: Create a follow up plan to stay in touch and ensure you are meeting your goals.

Reach out to them when you have inquiries. For instance: if you’re relocating for a new job in another city, consult them on whether it aligns with your “Jewish goals.” Does the new place offer the desired level of Kosher food? Is the new job consistent with your commitment to observe Shabbat as a family? How will this move impact your children’s Jewish education?

The effectiveness of coaching is well-known, and the importance of having a teacher is fundamental in Jewish thought. We are twice advised in the first chapter of Ethics of our Fathers to “appoint for yourself a teacher (1:6 & 1:16)” Our Jewish heritage is a critical component of our lives. This Elul, as you prepare for the High Holidays, consider obtaining a “Jewish Coach” for yourself.

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