Greg Ellis VS the family court cartel

Greg Ellis rises from the abyss of personal ruin, to fight 'untamed cesspool divorce industry'
Greg Ellis highlights the plight of dad deprived children as he fights for 50 - 50 custody

Ten words and a single phone call was all it took to turn Star Trek actor Greg Ellis’s life upside down.

In March 2015 Ellis’s wife of twenty years called the police to report his alleged sentence to her “I’m sick of this shit, I’m gonna harm the children.” Upon her alert, several police officers arrived at Ellis’s spacious LA house where he was playing with his two boys. Despite his protests, the handcuffed Pirates of the Caribbean star was ushered away to an unmarked police car. “I remember looking up from the back of that police car and seeing my eldest boy Charlie” recalled Ellis, “my son’s childhood at 10 was over.”

Within a space of eight hours the Emmy nominated actor, director and writer was subjected to a temporary restraining order, incarcerated without charge, became homeless, had his professional reputation irreversibly tarnished and saw his 8 and 10 year old sons lose their loving dad.

Over the weeks and months that followed, he would, have friends turn their back on him and be found guilty of domestic abuse violence. In court, he would see former friends “turn into hostile witnesses as they drove nail after nail” into his coffin. The family court ordeal, would crush his soul  and he will eventually reach “a point of such despair”, that he will end up on an overpass, glaring at the traffic below” with thoughts of bringing the hellish hopeless struggle to an end.
Seven years on Ellis revisited his harrowing journey “to the edge of existential terror” to write The Respondent. A gripping personal tale with a hard hitting message to divorcing dads, society and humanity at large.

The Respondent shares his pre-divorce naivetae, common to all divorcing fathers who have never before dealt with the court system. It conveys Ellis’s shock recognition of a thoroughly hostile and biased family court system that he would later term ‘an archaic, untamed cesspool’.

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“Family court is too many men’s red pill moment” campaigner Erin Pizzey has told me, “I wrote the forward to Greg’s book and I can tell you that his disturbing story is not the exception, it is the rule – these naive men, including self proclaimed feminists by the way, discover a system where their role as fathers is dismissed and their voice is unheard.” Pizzey’s sentiments are echoed by Ellis himself who spoke of “the only branch of our legal system where there’s no presumption of innocence, where “rapists, murderers, paedophiles and terrorists enjoy more legal rights than law-abiding citizens.”

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The “isolation and terror” of those first few days was inescapable. “I was in that moment staggering in the wake of not merely the false accusation of child abuse” wrote Ellis, “but the reflexive willingness of each artery of the system.. to believe that accusation based solely on the fact that the charge had been levied.” A reflection of a victimhood culture where the accused has to prove their innocence rather than the accuser having to prove their case, where the accuser has an absolute right to be believed.

Ellis’s The Respondent, exposes the agonizing reality of the divorce industry, and the punishing ordeal that brings many men to suicide. It also brings to light the mammoth size of the industry – “a 60 billion a year cartel of family law that is like a crime syndicate.” The book carefully details the plague of false allegations and the weaponizing of the court system against men. Presumed guilty, men are the “familial black sheep” – helplessly watching their livelihood destroyed as they engage in a soul crushing fight to access their own kids. “Men reach levels of desperation they never knew existed” said Pizzey, and it is no wonder so many men give up on life.” According to Warren Farrell of The Boy Crisis, “when going through the court process, men are eight times more likely than women to commit suicide due to the frustration of not being able to see their children.” In the large majority of cases men are the ones appealing for custody – “from the very start, it is the father who has to justify being a dad” added Pizzey “as if the father’s part in his kid’s life does not matter and his sole function is that of a wallet.”

The Respondent also highlights the catastrophe of parental alienation, a twisted, widespread phenomenon where one parent brainwashes the child against the other parent. “Parental alienation is child abuse” wrote Ellis, who admits to having been “ignorant of it at the start of the process” and becoming aware of it during supervised visits with his sons.

“An entire system meant to ease their pain and rebuild their lives” reflected Ellis, did everything in its power to stifle any glimmer of hope, including social workers, on the front lines of family law, “who are doing more to dismantle due process” than he could have imagined “before being thrust, unwillingly, into the gauntlet”- Ellis speaks of practitioners as prisoners of deeply held ideologies that tainted their every move, their actions executed “with a righteous indignation akin to that of even the most militant social justice warriors.”

Ellis’s The Respondent is more than a sobering account of his particularly disturbing ordeal. Through his personal experience, Ellis raises key issues affecting humanity that all readers, not just divorcing parents should seriously consider. He questions society’s compliance in the demonizing of men and the devastation caused by false allegations. He talks of the plague of parental alienation and the injustice of presumption of guilt. Most importantly however, Ellis questions the system’s treatment of children, and boys in particular. It is his belief that both men and women are capable of inflicting pain – “yet, when a man is struck down by false allegations and is in great need of help, how many look down at their feet and shuffle backward toward the tiresome antiseptic delusion that all men are toxic, and we must reflexively #believewomen?”

Ellis has come to believe, “based on hard experience, that as a society we embrace the false notion that women are naturally imbued with a more coherent, virtuous moral code than men, I am living proof that this just isn’t the case.” Society needs to “explore abuse and psychological toxicity as a human problem, not a gender issue.”

The Respondent’s most important message is that the irreversible damage caused to children, specially boys, growing up without a father. “How can boys be expected to grow into healthy men without their father guiding them?” he asks, as he lists shocking statistics demonstrating the plight of boys and the now undisputed correlation between boys’ plight and dad deprivation. 43 percent of American children live without their father, and 63% of youth suicides are from dad deprived homes – why is society ignoring the research linking dad deprivation to the boy crisis? Can we really afford to ignore the reality of 90% of prisoners being male and that the large majority of them are dad deprived? That boys are failing behind girls in almost every subject at school and the young men are reporting record levels of depression, and addiction to drugs, video games and online porn? How do we explain to ourselves that all school shooters grew up without a dad, as have the large majority of mass shooters.

The only way to try and halt this disastrous tide is through greater dad involvement. Ellis is campaigning hard for “50/50 custody to be the default in every divorce case, and that both parties should have to argue against that, rather than the presumption being that the children, especially when young are better off with their mother.” Kentucky and Arkansas have already made this law, and Ohio is to follow suit.

“If we can get the suicide rates down” concluded Ellis, “if my book can get to one person then they can feel like they’re not alone.”

About the Author
Hannah is a London based journalist covering culture and current affairs. She writes about photography, film and TV for outlets in the UK and US, and covers current affairs with particular interest in the Jewish world. She is also an award-winning filmmaker and photographer. Her films were screened in festivals worldwide and parts of her documentary about Holocaust survivor Leon Greenman were screened on the BBC.
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