Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

Heterosexual couples raising children is unnatural

Single-parent families and single-sex couples are often leading the way to better parenting

It is often claimed that single-parent families and single-sex couples are unnatural unhealthy ways to raise children. ‘Every child needs a father AND a mother,’ the politically incorrect wisdom goes.

However, when the fraudulent gay-curers checked the emotional health of children raised by single mothers, they found those kids to be more emotionally and intellectually capable than the average youths. They published this with a cop-out rational: sperm donors are heavily selected and therefore these kids do better. Which is ridiculous, of course, because that throws out the whole weight of who raises the children.

Truth be told, children raised by single(-sex) parents are only worse off if these alternative parents try to imitate modern Western heterosexual couples. The “this is my kid, stay away from it” attitude.

There is in the West this novel modern racist idea that children are the possession, the continuation, and the fulfillment of the two biological parents. This is not true and very damaging to children growing up.

Is it just my romantic imagination that I think that a hundred years ago, when life expectancy was much lower and people didn’t travel and move so much, many more people were involved in raising the next generation? Grandparents, uncles and aunts, and neighbors.

How many children suffer because they are stuck with only two parents neither of whom understands them? In the olden days, wasn’t there always a neighbor or family member who then would say: ‘Maybe it would be good for everyone if s/he would live some time with me now’?

It is a bogus idea that traditionally kids were brought up by one mother plus one father period. There were always many others.

And that is exactly what many ‘alternative’ parents do: involve others. Once you start thinking outside of the box, it’s also easier to think outside of the straightjacket. Net pretending that they alone suffice.

It’s the world upside-won then to blame single-parent families and single-sex couples for failing their kids.

Children need much more than two (exhausted, isolated) single-couples.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * NEW: To see other blog posts by him, his overspill blog you can reach by clicking on the Website icon next to his picture at the head of every post. There you may find precursors to later TOI blog posts, addition or corrections of published TOI blog posts, blog posts the TOI will not carry and some thoughts that are too short to be a TOI blog post. Also, the TOI only allows for one blog post per blogger per 24 hours. Sometimes, he has more to say than that. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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