Claude Lee Massey

How Do I Deal With The Changes in My Life?

Are you afraid of changes happening in your life?  If so, then imagine how that “fear” impacts your actions in life.

As a life coach and career counselor in Tel Aviv Israel, I help many of my clients deal with dramatic changes in their lives.  So, I decided to write this article just in case you are asking yourself, ” How do I deal with the changes in my life? ”

I want to speak with you about replacing the word “change/changing”, with the word “pivot/pivoting”.

What is Pivoting?

First you should know that Websters defines “pivot” as – a shaft or pin on which something turns. But don’t worry, this article is not about the things that keep your door frame in place.. it’s about adaptation.

I’ll elaborate but before that, here (below) is a list of 25 ways that you can enjoy your life from Lifehack.  I know that it will help those of you going through extreme changes in your lives.

  1. Focus on Yourself

Other people will always be on hand to offer up their opinions and advice. Ultimately, however, it’s you who has to live with the consequences of your decisions.

  1. Make Time to Relax

Making time to relax and reconnect with ourselves leaves us better equipped to deal with more challenging periods in life.

  1. Avoid the News

It’s all too easy to get sucked into public drama, online and offline. Trust that if something important happens, you’ll know about it. Otherwise, save your energy and spend your time on something more worthwhile than doom scrolling.

  1. Nurture Your Positive Relationships

Make time to nurture the positive relationships you have with friends and family. Identify the people who lift you up and focus your energy on them.

  1. Meet New People

Community is one of the most important needs we have. Making a consistent effort to meet new people helps us fulfill that need and introduces us to new ideas and perspectives.

  1. Explore New Places

Walk through a new part of town, watch a documentary, go camping in a nearby national park. It doesn’t have to be far to offer you a great experience.

  1. Keep a Wish List

Whenever you think of something you’d like to try, or a place you’d like to visit, write it down and keep a collection. It keeps the dream alive and stops it fizzling out as a forgotten thought.

  1. Try New Things

Commit to trying a certain number of items from your wish list each year to make sure they don’t just stay as wishes.

  1. Spend Money on Experiences, Not Possessions

Objects won’t help you make memories, but experiences will, and those are things that really allow you to enjoy life like no one else.

  1. Cut Down Your Junk

Physical clutter equals mental clutter. Reducing the amount of stuff around us fosters a calmer mental state, too. By tidying up around the house, you can increase your focus, productivity, and positive emotions.

  1. Make Time for Gratitude

Creating a routine of writing down three things you feel grateful for each day helps you focus more on what’s good in your life.

  1. Track How You’re Spending Your Time

When we’re conscious of how we’re spending our hours, we can make the most of the time we have on this planet.

  1. Be Deliberate in Your Choices

Be deliberate in your life choices: remember that it’s your life and no-one else’s.

  1. Invest in Yourself

The more self-aware and self-accepting we are, the happier we are. Make time to read personal development books, journal, and focus on being compassionate towards yourself.

  1. Remember That All Feelings Pass

A key part of enjoying life is accepting that we’re not going to feel 100% happy 100% of the time.

  1. Celebrate Small Wins

Make time to celebrate your wins—no matter how small, and focus on enjoying the journey rather than the destination.

  1. Allow Yourself to Feel Happy

Many of us find it challenging to enjoy a calm, “normal” life. Give yourself permission to enjoy a drama-free existence and focus on finding pleasure in your daily experiences.

  1. Practice Mindfulness

Noticing how we feel and what’s around us right now is an effective way of getting out of our heads, detaching from our worries, and returning to the experience of what it’s truly like to be alive, which is key when we want to enjoy life as much as possible.

  1. Get Outside

Feel the wind on your face, the sun on your skin, and enjoy a good dose of Vitamin D and fresh air. Science has found that being out in nature reduces stress and increases overall well-being.

  1. Speak Your Mind

Speak up and feel uncomfortable in the short-term and you’ll enjoy life more in the long-term.

  1. Record Happy Moments

This way, when you’re feeling down, you’ll have something to look back on to lift your spirits and help you enjoy life.

  1. Get Active

Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural pain-relieving and stress-busting chemicals. Even if you’re short on time, a 20 minute walk or a few jumping jacks can do wonders for your mood.

  1. Keep Learning

Find enjoyment through a sense of purpose and make time to explore subjects that interest you. After all, you never know where your interest might lead!

  1. Practice Compassion

When we can feel compassion for ourselves and compassion for others, even difficult situations become rewarding and, ultimately, more enjoyable.

  1. Give Back

Even though some of the activities might not be that enjoyable or exciting, the simple act of giving back is a reward in itself.

So what is “Pivoting” ?

When I refer to pivoting, I am speaking about a slight shifting.  An adjustment of an angle.  A continued movement in a forward direction, but at a new angle.

How do I deal with the changes in my life using this idea of “Pivoting”?

Perhaps the old saying is so true,  “that sometimes you do have to take one or two steps backward, in order to take many many more forward….”

I disagree. Moreover, I declare that you have merely pivoted.  And using this train of thought, changes can ONLY be pivots’ in our lives.

You might be going through a shift to the right, or swing into the left direction.  Changes are happening right now, but you cannot stop moving forward in time… can you?

So don’t hesitate if you need to start from the beginning, just do it.  Doing so, only would be a pivoting in your life.

Now get out there and enjoy your life, and enjoy your day.

-Claude Massey

About the Author
A Los Angeles native who made Aliyah 10+ years ago, Claude Lee Massey is a Life Coach and Career Consultant with a focus on helping new immigrants in Israel. Mr. Massey is also a “how-to” blogger, video content creator, and the author of two books: “Sell, I Dare You!” and "The Candlelit Road" - available on Amazon.
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