“I am losing it”

I have a question:

When you are losing it, what is the “it” that you are losing?

No, seriously. People say “I am losing it”, “I am about to lose it” and then the dreaded “I am sorry but I lost it”.

So what is that elusive “it?” And where can you find it?

We are a few days away from a holiday when we are supposed to “lose it”. The holiday of Purim, that is.

Here, give a look at the following statement from the Talmud:

“Rava said: A person is obligated to drink on Purim until he does not know the difference between “cursed be Haman” and “blessed be Mordechai.”” (Megillah 7b)

In other words, we are really supposed to “lose it”.

But what good can come out of losing it?

It seems to me that when we are losing “it”, we are losing our identity, the story we always tell others, our narrative.

When we lose it in the negative sense, we are behaving in a way that is unbecoming.

And when we are losing it in a positive way, we manage to transcend over our limitations.

Because at the end of the day, the “it” we cultivated so carefully over many years, is also the same “it” that gets us stuck. It limits us. It tells us that our essence is defined by what we do, where we work and how we behave.

The holiday of Purim is reminding us who we truly are. It tells us to focus on the soul; to remember and recognize our strong, everlasting bond with G-d, and how that is our core identity.

So losing doesn’t sound so bad anymore…

Shabbat Shalom and Happy Purim!

Rabbi Mendy Kaminker

About the Author
Rabbi Mendy Kaminker is the Chabad Rabbi of Hackensack, and an editorial member of Chabad.org.