Cookie Schwaeber-Issan

If You’re Still a Woman and a Mother, Happy Mother’s Day

While the title of this article may seem a bit absurd, these days, you can no longer take it for granted that someone, born a woman, still identifies as one.  So, in the effort to be politically correct, these sentiments only apply to those who still consider themselves female and a mother.

Indeed, we are living in strange times, when being born with specific identifying biological anatomy is no longer good enough, for some, in order to determine their gender.  Such was the case for an individual named Ari Dennis, who appeared on “Good Morning Britain,” explaining the unknown gender of Dennis’ offspring, despite having been born with detectable physical anatomy – something which would ordinarily be a reliable and even irrefutable source in which to determine one’s gender.

Sadly, I am forced to use the name Dennis, when referring to that individual’s offspring, because Dennis identifies as gender-neutral or non-binary.  This means that despite the physical body parts which are undeniable, as it relates to Dennis, this individual is unwilling to take on the corresponding identity to what happened at birth.

However, since Dennis has the voice of a female, I will use the pronouns “she/her” for the purpose of this article. She claims that her daughter/son, named Sparrow, who is now a 1-year-old, does not have a fixed gender, because she will leave that decision up to Sparrow to determine once the child is able to do so.

Dennis is one of three non-gendered or transgender adults, in this very perplexing household, where children are being indoctrinated to make up their own minds concerning their gender identity. This, according to them, can happen as early as the child voices their gender preference – even as soon as age 6 or less.  Despite their inability to fully understand the ramifications of gender, body parts or any of the other complex issues involved, these children, who have been solely exposed to gender-conflicted adults, will be given the responsibility of choosing the sex that they want to be.  All this, of course, is irrespective of how the child was born.

So, what are the chances that these children are likely to choose to identify as the gender which corresponds with their body? After all, their caregivers have, themselves, chosen to disregard the truth of their own bodies, deferring, instead, to how they feel or perceive themselves to be.  Does all this sound absurd?  You can listen to the exchange at

Thankfully, it’s still true that most of the world’s population cannot relate to this or even grasp why anyone would want to do this to themselves or their children. But it, nonetheless, is a growing trend which, even if you wouldn’t personally choose, are expected to accept as equally valid in today’s ever-evolving world.

Yet, the notion of letting young children decide matters of creation, gender assignment or identifying preference, is not only madness, it is an attempt at one-upmanship to the Creator, Himself.  In truth, it is a baseless and faulty supposition that they know better than He does when it comes to who they were meant to be!

But, Piers Morgan, as one of the two moderators of “Good Morning Britain,” said to Ari Dennis, “I have no problem with your choices.  You are an adult, and you can be whatever you want, but I’m more concerned about the children in your care.”

And this is where it’s all gone off the rails.  Our Creator, not only created us, but He also gave us a Manual for Life, helping us to avoid all of the errors which can cost us misery, pain and a myriad of bad consequences.  One of those injunctions for right living comes from the Biblical book of Proverbs which categorically states in chapter 22, verse 6, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”  A more modernized version says, “Point your kids in the right direction – when they’re old they won’t be lost. (MSG)

The advice here is proactive and not optional.  In other words, there is a cause and effect.  Put in the training, and your kids will be anchored!  They will know who they are and head in a path that leads to success.  Forego the training, and it will lead to your offspring losing their way in life.  Nothing too complicated.  A child may want to play with a box of matches, but a prudent parent won’t allow it, knowing that it will lead to pain and anguish.

All that is happening in our world today, especially as it relates to the issue of questioning gender, is a direct result of abandoning the instruction manual of the Creator.  When we go our own way, we run the risk of doing harm to ourselves.

Men and women are different; always have been and always will be.  Claiming there are no differences or that differences won’t be acknowledged any longer, doesn’t change what still clearly exists.

At some point, each person must make peace with who they are, how they look and the talents and gifts which their innate gender does not prevent them from displaying.  On this Mother’s Day, I encourage women, who have given birth to children, to embrace the blessing of having nurtured a baby in the womb, brought it to life and guarded its well-being.  No man can do this despite the absurd claims that now they can.

For those of us who are women, we were given the gift of life and reproduction, without which the world would cease to be.

The best advice on this Mother’s Day, is to acknowledge who you are, what a privilege it is to fulfill that role and how you are the perfect creation you were meant to be.  Having that sense of pride will assist you in passing on those same traits and attributes to your own children, male or female, because those are the only types that have ever been created!

May you enjoy and revel in your femininity especially today and every day!

About the Author
A former Jerusalem elementary and middle-school principal and the granddaughter of European Jews who arrived in the US before the Holocaust. Making Aliyah in 1993, she is retired and now lives in the center of the country with her husband.