Incidental Contact

A charming story from the late, beloved Conservative Rabbi Mordecai Waxman. Once while visiting Greece, he was invited out to dinner. On the way, stopped to buy flowers for his host from a vendor in the street. He asked the price. The vendor said “26 drachmas.” When Rabbi Waxman reached into his wallet to pay him, the vendor said: “That’s not how it works. I’m supposed to say ‘26 drachmas,’ and you’re supposed to say, ‘My dear sir, they are only worth eight.’ Then I am supposed to say, ‘You are taking the bread from my children but since you are a guest, I will go down to 21.’ And then you are supposed to say ‘Honored friend, the most they could be worth is 10.’ Eventually after the back and forth, we settle on 13. That’s how it works here.”

So Rabbi Waxman reached into his wallet again and pulled out 13 drachmas. But the vendor said, “From my students, I don’t take money” and gave him the flowers.

Incidental, unexpected encounters can be wonderful. Don’t ignore the bag boy, the checker, the parking attendant, the merchant, the maintenance man. Every soul has sweetness; each hides treasures.

Rabbi David Wolpe is spiritual leader of Sinai Temple in Los Angeles. Follow his teachings at

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Named the most influential Rabbi in America by Newsweek Magazine and one of the 50 most influential Jews in the world by the Jerusalem Post, David Wolpe is the Rabbi of Sinai Temple in Los Angeles, California.