“…the sumptuous convoy met a few wretched black sledges, with curtains drawn, guarded by soldiers. Sophie wanted to know who these invisible travelers were…Sophie was to learn that the little deposed Czar Ivan and his mother, the former Regent Anna, were indeed on that day carried off to Riga … and there imprisoned in a fortress.
Thus, while she was dreaming of the generous Czarina who awaited her in Moscow, perhaps to make her fortune, …The road to glory ran alongside the road to disgrace. Through a whim of fate, she who was ascending was presented with a glimpse of the tragedy of those who had just been struck down.”(Excerpt from Catherine the Great by Henri Troyat)
We know that some of the future new immigrants will start their immigration process looking at some others leaving Israel in disgrace after a failed immigration process but what many mistakenly tend to believe is that it is all about “luck or fate” – believe me it is not.
Do not give even a glimpse at “the tragedy of those who had just been struck down” – especially if you do not intend to become one of them.
What is the correct approach?
Hard work with focus, dedication and perseverance is part of the journey and is a requirement to success but mainly, you need a fierce desire to succeed in Israel.
New immigrants should have an inner drive, should be ready to take chances, be ready “to pay a price” if needed, for their courageous decision to exchange a “sheltered life” for a daily challenging new life in Israel.
There are no perfect or magic solutions; there are only trade-offs and compromises.
What can you do to avoid the road to disgrace?
If you choose to be a complainer, you will easily find like-minded people to join in the endless cycle of negativity. If you belong to the whiner or the eternal complainer’s category, you will have many options from which to choose among the already existing local and online groups.
These various groups are experts at blacklisting others, complaining about what they don’t have but believe should be given to them for free, or making excuses for why they don’t have a job, why they don’t speak enough Hebrew, why they need financial help in order to keep a roof over their heads,etc. In other words, why they are different than those who experience a successful aliyah.
These groups are creating a new era in which people are demanding “fairness and social justice”. To those I ask, “What is your “fair share” of what someone else has worked hard for? What have you contributed to society so far that makes you feel entitled to a fair share?”
“It is amazing how many people think that the government’s role is to give them what they want by overriding what other people want…people who have contributed nothing to society feel that society owes them something, apparently just for being nice enough to grace us with their presence.” (Economist Thomas Sowell).
If you don’t like something, then make an effort to change it. And if you cannot change it, then it’s better to change your attitude towards it because complaining will not make anything better, and might cause negative changes to your health and overall quality of life.
The greater the expectations you have, the harder disappointments will hit and anger you – leading to more inner pain. You must learn to be humble and learn to forgive.
It is personal:
There are some people who have a hard time with the truth, and others who have a hard time with me.
To those having a hard time with me, I’d like to share a quote from motivational speaker and bestselling author, Larry Winget:
“Be authentic. Don’t try to be someone you aren’t. You’ll hate yourself for it & the effort to maintain the facade will exhaust you. BE REAL! Many won’t like the real you but that’s better than having people adore the person that isn’t you at all.”
I am not sorry for being personal! I prefer just to be me instead of pleasing everyone around.
A last word of appreciation and gratitude or “Hakarat Ha tov” in Hebrew:
As soon as many of my friends learned about my recent health situation, I began receiving an avalanche of phone calls, e-mails and chats. I have no words to describe how deeply touched I am by all of you and how blessed I feel.
Please accept this very small token of my appreciation by saying: You are part of my recovery process, thank you from the depths of my heart.