Zelda Harris
Five on the 100 aliyah from UK list!

Lonely or alone…whats the difference?

What is lonely and what is being alone.?
Lonely is when you know that there’s no one in the world who cares for you totally. No-one for whom you are the whole world.
Lonely is not being alone.
There’s so much that one can do to fill time.
I know.
Today I cleaned the house again.
I arranged the flowers again and again!
Emptied my dishwasher again.
Why use a dishwasher when you are one?
Why cook when you are one?
“Oh! you can invite someone in!”
I haven’t the energy to cook for myself, so why for another? Another who maybe a friend, but still has others to care about and give attention to.
I have others too!
I have a beautiful and loving family. Some living really nearby.
They all love and care about me BUT…. all have someone or more than one, who is, are the focus of their attention, love and energy.
This is the ultimate fulfillment of life.
This is what stops you from being a lonely one. One, is alone. not alive!
What about Netflix, the radio, chat shows and more? Distracting you from loneliness? no it doesn’t.
It doesn’t because humans like to share.
For almost 60 years I had someone who cared for and loved me. Someone for whom I was the most important being in the world.
When he, after battling against cruel, disfiguring and debilitating illness died, it was two years before anyone came into my life, who truly cared only for me.
And then it happened. Out of the blue almost, came a young man who could have been my grandson.
He gave me a “raison d’etre” because strangely like me,he had an empty place inside waiting to be filled.
Music, language, writing, the beach, the sea everything was shared or discussed, I was bowled over.
When this period came to an end, I knew what loneliness was, really was.
The Corona period has given us all so much time for thought. Not just to think about banal things but also of what is truly important.
It has not made loneliness any easier.

The current political situation maybe has slipped the attention of those who are worrying how they will make ends meet? How indeed to feed their families or restore their businesses which have been so cruelly and adversely affected by the Corona catastrophe.

So Israel may come out as it were smelling of roses in the handling of the Corona crisis.  Thanks to the outstanding mostly unnamed people including Doctors,  nurses and members of the various health organisations at every level, ethnicity not an issue when everyone in society is at risk,it has been handled well.  I believe that the man who spoke to us on the TV screens every day calmly and affably, did a good job.Now he is the object of criticism.Not withstanding, the Minister  should never have been  a Minister of Health. It was only because if you remember, Health was one of five Ministries which the great Bibi took upon himself to run and made Litzman his deputy to appease his running mates.

So here we are with a great fat Knesset full of hungry acolytes’  grasping for posts which means that Ministries of Nonsense have been created.

If  only our satirists had a free hand? At this moment I am not sure who is Minister of Culture and the Arts but if its a clone of Miri Regev there will be no one who will make this a priority. Instead there will be moans of no money available for frivolities especially if they have political overtones.

Now is the time for idealists to come through with innovative ideas. People like me but younger, whose  deepest desire was and is to live in a land where one could feel equal and free spirited. A land where once our agriculture and diamond exports and tourism where number one in the world. A land for which so much blood was shed and so many knuckles rubbed sore from heaving boulders out of the earth. Those days are gone and now we have to face the reality. Much will depend on the values which we have instilled in our young people.

The anger and frustration of men mainly, has resulted in cruelty to their women folk. If not for the foresight and endeavour of Ruth Rasnic who created the first shelters for women in Israel, there would not even be a place to find refuge. Many wonderful people have contributed to human and humanitarian needs but have always struggled for funding.

True humanitarians’ cannot go around with a begging box.  Also they expect society to be protected by those who govern.In a parliamentary democracy they  also expect to be represented,but not here.

With this overloaded government there will be less genuine representation it will be a question of who shouts louder and bangs on the table. They have already proven themselves in the last few days.

In the meantime let’s look forward to Shavuot the Festival of Harvest.  With garlands on our heads and loads of cheese cake on our tables,enjoy as only Israelis can, renewed hope for the future.

Hag Shavuot Sameach !

About the Author
Zelda Harris first came to Israel 1949, aged 18. After living through the hardships of the nascent state, she returned to England in 1966. She was a founding member of the Women's Campaign for Soviet Jewry. In 1978, she returned with her family to Israel and has been active in various spheres of Israeli Society since. Together with the late Chaim Herzog, she founded CCC for Electoral Reform, was the Director of BIPAC in Israel, and a co-founder of Metuna, the Organisation for Road Safety, which received the Speaker of Knesset Quality of Life Award for saving lives on the roads and prevention of serious injury. She is now a peace activist, blogger for Times of Israel and is writing her life story.