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Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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Men who kill women are as despicable as rapists of women!

Christine Blasey Ford is sworn in before the Senate Judiciary Committee, Thursday, Sept. 27, 2018 on Capitol Hill in Washington.  The Senate Judiciary Committee will hear from Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh and Christine Blasey Ford, the woman who says he sexually assaulted her. (Michael Reynolds/Pool Image via AP)
Christine Blasey Ford is sworn in before the Senate Judiciary Committee, Thursday, Sept. 27, 2018 on Capitol Hill in Washington. The Senate Judiciary Committee will hear from Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh and Christine Blasey Ford, the woman who says he sexually assaulted her. (Michael Reynolds/Pool Image via AP)

Sorry if you don’t like the focus on something negative. Just skip this post. There are enough people who can read this story without becoming too upset. You’re exempt.

In Israel, every month on average, two women are murdered by their spouses or immediate family. (The two of this month are dead.) Most of these women and perpetrators are not Jewish or are new immigrants.

(This is not to blame or stigmatize these communities or to let traditionally-Jewish murderers off the hook. But we must address the main group of murderers to uproot the ultimate sexism—killing women.)

This loathsome murder is “justified” by perpetrators either because these men considered these women their property or for the aged idea that when women want an intimate relationship with someone the family disapproves off, the family should “protect the family honor.”

Yet, a month ago, a Jewish teenager was brutally raped and killed by an Arab Gentile terrorist. Surprisingly, Chamas decided not to praise the man because of the rape. Bloodshed was OK but rape apparently not.

(Of course, it is disgusting that murder is OK and rape not but let’s start with where the sentiments sit. If raping women is contemptible, let’s equate it with murdering women. Later, we’ll address that any murder (and rape) is cowardly and a disgrace.)

We need to popularize this notion that men who kill women are as vile as rapists of women. They are not your property might be hard to teach. But that murdering women is as rape may be easier to get across.

Real men protect women, no questions asked.

The ultimate family honor is that our women are safe, no matter what.

Only cowards kill women.

Murder of a woman is a man’s shame forever.

Murder of a woman is a family’s shame forever.

Please spread the slogans.

Of course, we can’t stop here. All sexism must be fought all the time. Feminists are to be taken seriously. More women are needed in politics. LGBTs need to be more visible in all of society. Etc.

The Scroll of Ester shows: they first came for the women and no one said a thing. And then they came for the Jews!

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MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, previously a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He often makes his readers laugh, mad, or assume he's nuts—close to perfect blogging. As a frontier thinker, he sees things many don't yet. He's half a prophet. Half. Let's not exaggerate. He doesn't believe that people observe and think in a vacuum. He, therefore, wanted a broad bio that readers interested can track a bit what (lack of) backgrounds, experiences, and educations contribute to his visions. * This year, he will prioritize getting his unpublished books published rather than just blog posts. Next year, he hopes to focus on activism against human extinction. To find less-recent posts on a subject XXX among his over 1500 archived ones, go to the right-top corner of a Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". 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But that's exactly what some love about him. He has written a lot about Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (including basic statistics), Politics (Israel, the US, and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight reality), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA+, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), the Climate Crisis, Ecology and Veganism, Affairs from the news, or the Torah Portion of the Week, or new insights that suddenly befell him. * Chronologically, his most influential teachers are his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim, Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. 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Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he was active in hasbara to the Dutch-speaking public. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. 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