Remembering my father’s miraculous life

At the end of Kislev, the Hebrew month which begins today, we celebrate Hanukah, the festival of lights, by lighting candles. However, on this first day of the month, I light a candle too. It’s a candle to commemorate my father’s yahrzeit, the anniversary of his passing. I could spend this day mourning his loss – and a loss it is – but instead, I will commemorate his life and the lesson he taught me and those who knew him.

My father, Avraham, was born in Trochenbrod/Lozisht in the Volhyn region of Poland (now Ukraine) early in the second decade of the 20th century. His birth was registered in the family humashaccording to the parashah of the week, so we only could guess on the year and date. His father, a melamedor religious schoolteacher, taught him until he was old enough to go off and study in a yeshiva. Eventually, he went to learn in Radin, the yeshiva of the Chafetz Chaim, and received his semichaor ordination. He soon found a job as a teacher and met the woman who would ultimately be my mother.

To say that turbulent times followed would be a radical understatement. Two weeks after they were married, Hitler invaded Poland. My mother was in Kiev, cut off from my father and her family. As my father would later tell it, it was a miracle that they were separated, because it gave him a legitimate excuse to avoid being shipped to the front with the other recruits and enabled him to get permission to look for her instead. Eventually, his search took him to Fergana in Uzbekistan, where he was able to live in relative safety, working in a textile mill while the war was sowing death and destruction across Europe and devastation to its Jewish communities. Despite all that, my father did not lose faith.

Two years later, his faith was rewarded. A friend who worked with him told him that a group of Jewish refugees was passing through Fergana, and among them were people from Volhyn who might have news about his wife or family. He quickly left work and ran to where they were staying, only to discover that one of the refugees was his wife. It was truly a miracle. They remained in Uzbekistan until the end of the war.

With the war over, my father returned to Volhyn, and found the town had been literally razed, and its people murdered by the Germans and their collaborators. There no trace of the buildings that had been there let alone the vibrant Jewish community that existed before the war. Except for a sister who had moved to Brazil in the 1920s he was the last surviving member of his family. Even worse, he was an educated Polish ex-pat and a teacher, so he was shipped to Siberia to be ‘re-educated’ in one of Stalin’s gulags. But a Jewish Communist official took pity on him and arranged for his release. He was reunited with his wife and daughter less than a year after his arrest.

Another miracle.

From the gulag, my father traveled for close to four years through DP camps, eventually reaching Brazil, Central America and Florida finally settling in Philadelphia where I was born. He became a congregational rabbi and much-respected shochet(ritual slaughterer). It was the latter role that left its physical mark on him – a vivid 8-inch scar on his right arm which was the result of an encounter with a chainsaw at work. Despite the damage and the pain that it caused him, he believed his recovery to be another miracle.

In short, my father had his share of traumas and triumphs, of encounters with unimaginable evil and unparalleled good. He weathered the evils by holding onto an unshakable belief that in the end, good will prevail.

I think of my father’s belief in miracles on his yahrzeit which usually coincides with the Torah portion, Toledot. As the father of twins, the story of Yitzchak’s twin sons resonates with me. Although they may not appreciate it, our twins are fulfilling my father’s unrealized dream: they were born in Israel and now serve in its army. Like Yaakov and Esav in the parasha, our twins are very much unalike, but unlike Yitzchak’s sons, our twins remain best friends. One of them, named for my father, even bears a noticeable scar on his right arm, the result of surgeries to repair a bone damaged in a childhood fall. The scar will remain for life, but it has given him a greater level of physical strength and emotional resilience I hope will last equally long. I pray he comes to appreciate the miracle role it plays in his life.

About the Author
Rabbi Sid Slivko is a rabbi and educator who moved to Israel in 1997, where he taught at the Fuchsberg Center, Hebrew Union College, B’nei Akiva and ran educational programs for the Jewish Agency. He currently works in marketing and social media and is an artist and writer... in his spare time. Rabbi Sid was ordained at RIETS (Yeshiva University), and lives in Jerusalem with his wife and family.
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