Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

Reward homosexuals for how they can help heterosexual relationships

New arguments against old homophobic allegations
Thousands of people march during the annual Gay Pride parade at a main street in Jerusalem on September 18, 2014. (Hadas Parush/Flash90)
Thousands of people march during the annual Gay Pride parade at a main street in Jerusalem on September 18, 2014. (Hadas Parush/Flash90)

It’s been said over and over again. Homosexuality is unnatural because two men or two women having sex cannot create babies — so it’s broken sex. And also the opposite is alleged. Homosexual is beastly. It’s just giving in to lust as animals do. (It’s like calling Jews the bankers and the communists.) And now for some counterarguments.

Homosexuality might be unnatural for you but for homosexuals, it’s exactly what they need to break their seclusion. If it’s within a mutually nurturing relationship, it just kills any existential loneliness. (Just as it does for heterosexuals in a heterosexual relationship.)

(I don’t call homosexual all those who have sex with their own gender. Only those who need someone of their own gender to sexually bond.)

Actually, homosexual partnership or sex has been observed in at least a hundred species of animals. So much for being unnatural.

Actually, beasts don’t have sex when they feel like it. When a female is capable to conceive, it sends signals to males and they’ll have sex to procreate. It has very little to do with pleasure. So, actually, animalistic sex is for creating babies, not for the relationship, pleasure or fun.

Most of the time, humans have sex to cement their relationship. As recommended early-on in the Hebrew Bible (Genesis 2:24). The same Scripture that strictly forbids men to have sex with a man instead of with a woman (so, addressing heterosexual men only) (Leviticus 18:22).

One has to be seriously secular to assume that G^d must be making a mistake to have more than a million homosexual Jews (5%) and almost half a billion homosexual Gentiles around at the present. That’s not a mistake anymore — that’s a plan. G^d creates nothing without a purpose.

There are three giant problems among many heterosexual couples. Not in yours, of course, but in many others. 1. Sexism. 2. Lack of empathy for the kids. 3. Incest. Many (closeted) homosexual friends and therapists have saved heterosexual marriages. Many (closeted) homosexual teachers are helping out our students like no one else. No child raised by homosexual couples has to cope with childhood sexual abuse. These are yardsticks for heterosexuals couples and signs that they urgently must learn from them.

For sure, it further unites a couple when they receive children with aspects of both partners and when they raise children together, making it easier for heterosexuals. It is outright cruel and stupid when a society won’t facilitate that homosexuals can marry, be teachers and parents. And it is ungrateful to withhold from them what they may give you: a happy relationship, kids who stay seen and happy, with sexual safety for them.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * NEW: To see other blog posts by him, his overspill blog you can reach by clicking on the Website icon next to his picture at the head of every post. There you may find precursors to later TOI blog posts, addition or corrections of published TOI blog posts, blog posts the TOI will not carry and some thoughts that are too short to be a TOI blog post. Also, the TOI only allows for one blog post per blogger per 24 hours. Sometimes, he has more to say than that. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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