Mark Frankel

Said Correctly, Meant Not at All

The Ramchal opens the Mesillas Yesharim with a demand most sefarim skip. Before he discusses a single practice, before mussar or middos or avodah, he insists on something else first:

“The foundation of piety and the root of perfect service is for a person to clarify and verify what his obligation is in this world, and toward what goal he should direct his vision and aspiration in all that he labors throughout his life.”

His point is not about what we do. It is about whether we know what we are doing it for. A person can be scrupulously frum and spiritually directionless. The observance is real. The orientation is missing. This failure is hard to see because it hides behind a life that looks fine.

The brachah is where this shows up. A hundred times a day, the halacha puts you in front of the Ramchal’s question and gives you the words to answer it. You say brachos before everything you eat and drink. You have been doing this for years. The words are correct. The timing is correct. And the brachos are not part of your relationship with Hashem. They are part of your day.

Here is the mechanism. At some point you committed to saying a brachah before everything you eat and drink. That took effort. It stuck. You built a habit. And a habit, by definition, is something the mind does without thinking. The same force that got the words into your life is the force that now empties them. The habit cannot supply the kavanah. It was never going to. It runs on a different track.

The Mishna Berurah, drawing on the Sefer Chasidim, names this exact failure in halachic terms. A person should not act like someone who does things out of habit and lets words leave his mouth without any thought. When brachos are said this way, Hashem becomes angry at His people. The rebuke comes from Yeshaya: “Since this people draw near, and with their mouth and with their lips do honor me, but have removed their heart far from me.”

Read that again with yourself as the subject. The navi is not describing the irreligious. He is describing habitual observance. Words said correctly and meant not at all. The rebuke is addressed to the person whose brachos are technically perfect.

So the work is not to upgrade the habit. The habit is doing its job. The work is to add something the habit cannot supply. One thought, placed before the words begin, that the habit is not allowed to absorb.

The thought is this: I am serving Hashem with this brachah. This is what I am here for.

Hold that thought for a beat and the pace of the words changes on its own. You cannot say “this is what I am here for” and then rush through the next nine words. The thought sets the speed. A shehakol is nine words. Said deliberately, it takes about ten seconds. If this is what the brachah is for, ten seconds of attention is obviously what it deserves.

Look at what you are holding. Register that it came from Hashem. Say the nine words of the shehakol deliberately, as if you chose each one.

About the Author
Mark Frankel has integrated his passion for outreach, community, and education by running beyondbt.com for BTs, shulpolitcs.com for making Shuls incredible, infograsp.com for cloud based school management and brevedy.com for making learning faster, easier and more retainable.
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