Here you find very deep answers from big rabbis in our time. And below you find my answer which is completely different from what they wrote.
I’m totally for us all living our lives as we see fit and others respecting us in that — as long as we don’t (try to) hurt others. But that’s not ideal.
The best is when we all challenge the boundaries from our own characters as much as possible — though step by step.
The endless listener should become an excellent speaker.
The enthusiastic speaker should learn to listen.
The downtrodden “happy to follow” should strive to lead.
The confident “natural leader” should support the leadership of others.
The cerebral person should discover the importance of feelings.
The overwhelmed person should try to formulate these key thoughts.
The quite should learn to make noise — and enjoy it.
The noisy should learn to be quite.
The extrovert should also take time to reflect alone.
The introvert should also learn to lead.
This policy will bring out the best in all of us.
That’s why we often marry our opposites — to learn from them.
It is an enormous misunderstanding that people are at their best when they are comfortable. Comfort is good but, as with all enjoyment in life, should only be enjoyed within limits — or it will be a destructive addiction.
No, we should not turn into the ones who should act more like we did. The newly leading person should stay themselves, humble, feeling, asking for support, thinking well about everyone. And not become like the old-style classic leaders, bossy, know-it-all, arrogant, self-centered, fake-friendly, get-out-of-my-way type.
And this should also set a policy for the bystander and the community.
We should insist that the shy speak before anyone else.
We should seek leaders who feel too incompetent.
Yes, I know, it sounds crazy. But that’s an uninformed opinion till you try it.
That’s G^d’s policy. He only sought Prophets who ran away from it.