Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

The mistake of pursuing happiness

The US Constitution guarantees everyone the right to pursue happiness. This is such a giant mistake. The proof is in – Americans take more mind-bending drugs than any population on earth. With all their wealth, they seem the unhappiest people around the globe. What went wrong?

The answer is so simple that it needs to be provided. It’s so obvious that it may be missed easily.

There is no road to happiness. Happiness it the way.

No money and no circumstance can buy us happiness. Especially¬† riches don’t help, as the rabbis teach us: who has 50 wants 100, who has 100 wants 200, and who has 200 wants 400. Not only do possessions not solve dissatisfaction; the more we have the more we find us lacking.

The real solution is cheap, easy and instantaneous. Decide here and now to be happy with what you have for now and smile. Even if you can’t stop crying, smile on the inside.

It doesn’t mean to settle and not pursue basic needs. Rather, displeasure does not guarantee us being hopeful or successful in acquiring them.

We are so lucky to be alive. The rest is all bonus.

Sure, we should have food and clean water to sustain our health and safety and friends to help us survive hardships. But even if we don’t: be grateful for what you do have.

If the glass is half-full – be happy with half. If it’s empty – be happy you have a glass. And if you don’t have a glass – be happy that it can’t get lost, break, be stolen, cause jealousy.

If only I was/had …. will not give happiness. You have already all the happiness you need. Pull up these corners of your mouth.

And don’t you dare to fake it. That leads to suicide. Mean it.

Alcohol, tobacco and other escapism need to go too.

And it might help to stop idolizing the rich, famous and powerful.

And about the world’s wrongs – you get more activists with you when you brightly speak of hope and right than when you bitterly complain about doom and lack.

Happy holidays and 2018. You’d better.

About the Author
The author is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (DES - Diethylstilbestrol), born in 1953 to two Dutch Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a vegan for 8 years now. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo and Rav Zev Leff. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science, Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Many people can't understand or like him because he has such a wide vision that he never fits any specialist's box. But that exactly what others love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. * He likes doing age-appropriate and age-inappropriate things and looks forward to getting to know his timeless mature out-of-the-box soul mate. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.