The Post-Holiness Slump

We all have that moment. We look ourselves in the mirror and say “This year will be different, this year I’ll {workout more, be more social, clean my room, be more productive}.” These resolutions never really last more than a month and then we just fall back into routine. I get angry with myself but this weekend I know I’m going to make resolutions of a different breed.

As the last Shofar sounds and concludes the final service of the day of atonement, I close my eyes and begin another string of resolutions. From attending services to being more involved in community service to getting in touch with my spiritual side, I try to capitalize on my cleansed high and become a better man. A month later the high is gone and I am back in the same old routines. The guilt sets in, and its a tough couple of days. Then it numbs as I go through the motions only to find myself in the same place next Yom Kippur.

How do we keep this from happening? I’ve always been a slave to routine and while moments of excitement may jump start me for a week or two I, like an open soda, eventually fall flat.  I’m trying to find a way to keep the strength I get from big moments, but I too often find myself getting bogged down by life’s little pains.

The number one thing I took away from my experience in Yeshiva is that we are in a relationship with Hashem. Irregardless of your religiosity, we all have felt rote or routine and without a little effort a relationship fades away. I know I will find myself making the same promises as my stomach yearns for a nice sandwich, the question is whether can I stick to it with school and future careers staring me in the face. I’m looking for suggestions, stories, and snippets of how you’ve brought new flavor into you’re relationships both spiritual and otherwise. Feel free to share.

Lets hope this year is one filled with zest and meaningful growth.

Gmar Chatima Tovah

About the Author
Gabriel Felder is a rising senior at George Washington University's School of Media and Public Affairs. He has also served multiple positions in the GWU Hillel and has largely focused on faith based dialogue on campus.