Don’t wait for the secular leaders to take the initiative
Disclaimer: I’m going to discuss groups without denying that there are exceptions. But that should not stop us from talking about generalities.
Also, many Jews and Israelis place themselves between Ultra-Orthodox and completely secular, not only as traditional Orthodox, National-religious, and Conservative or Reform, but also as faithfully Traditional.
Remember that this insularism is mainly an Ashkenazic affair. Mizrachim don’t split up so much, and you may easily find the whole spectrum together at a family gathering, celebration, or synagogue service.
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Judaism does not doubt who should bridge the religious-secular divide. Religious Jews learn that Jews are like one body. So, they must reach out.
Holy means separated for a higher purpose; being arrogant is placing yourself as separate because you think you’re better, a terrible disgrace.
So, reaching out must be done humbly and on an equal basis. How?
Teach the seculars what they want to learn about Judaism, Jews, Prayer, and the Holy Land, but also be eager to learn from the seculars about the virtues of democracy and relationships between humans.
G^d is One and we are one. Not learning from the best among ‘others’ is not only a waste but adds to the worst collective sin of baseless hatred.
Ultra-Orthodox Jews try to live with each other to prevent intermarriage, outside of Israel with Gentiles, in Israel with the seculars. (Its absolutism is modern. In the past, so-called Chareidi neighborhoods had 20% seculars with mutual respect and pleasantries. Many of the religious used to live as minorities in so-called secular neighborhoods. It keeps one humble.)
Yet, we can dismiss that fear now! Without living nearby, we already see in so many Orthodox families seculars appear, and in so many secular families we see that some turn into very religious Jews. We’re one family!
It’s imperative that we keep embracing our family members who went off the Jewish straight and narrow, and we may hope that secular Jews continue to love their newly fanatical close ones no less.
Before we develop love for ‘the other’ (who’s our not-so-distant relative), we can use respect to get there. And the Torah advises us to help those we don’t feel so good about because that awakens our love for them.
B’ruria (Talmud) already urged her holy husband not to pray for the destruction of the people he frowned upon but for their atonement.
We don’t need to condemn those who want to live in their own bubble. We only need to reach those who don’t, whom I guess will be the majority.
It’s not enough to love G^d. Why would He appreciate us loving Him but ignoring His children? He commanded us to love all fellow Jews.
If only the religious knew how much most of the secular are scared but eager to be close to us and vice versa. Only when we see that, we might understand how much Gentiles are eager to learn what we have to teach.
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