Amateurish idealists can do tremendous damage
Dozens of matchmakers met to swap tips in Jerusalem.
If you only offer heterosexual options, you have no suitable partner for some 5-10% of the public. With non-heterosexual orientation a taboo, many of them will not say a word, hoping to slip through and escape the terrible oppression. What are you doing to their spouses and kids?!
As long as these ‘kosher’ matchmakers exclude LGBTQ+ from proper matchmaking, they are chiefly responsible for the loneliness and suicides among them. They need love too and statistically, with their extra empathy, especially suitable for raising kids. (The Injunction on same-sex sex is clearly only for Straight people, but no one dares to admit that.)
If you don’t screen for too good to be true control-freaks and con artists (experts spot them in a split second), you endanger the mental health of the partners you suggest and in case of male charmers, the lives of women they marry. Some people are just too unsafe to be suitable for marriage.
If you don’t know and recognize pedophiles, what are you doing to women and children you try to put into their hands?
And some people don’t want to get partnered, for instance, workaholics, but may try anyway because of social pressure.
The only problems they could come up with are someone with one leg, on the autism spectrum, and on mental illness medication. Duh.
Thankfully, most people are OK. That’s true. But driving, do you turn right without looking because most of the time, there is no one there?
Tip for do-it-yourselfers: You want to look for desirable character traits, with good beliefs, hands, and looks just as a bonuses.
Where are the other frum or any therapists to caution and guide these giggly amateurs?
The best way to find your suitable life partner is still that your friends know friends of them. So, if you want a partner, make friends.