Society should serve the people in it
A relationship should be for the good of all the people in it. No one gets to serve a relationship and get nothing out of it in return. Not because I believe in egotism. Rather, I’m against exploitation. No one is more important than anyone else.
The Opposite New Meaning
“The personal is political” used to mean: personal unhappiness can only be solved in a wider, political context. Therapy is not going to solve that you are exploited. That was important. But now, I like to say the opposite.
All our societal problems can be solved by solving the personal first. This is true because no oppression can exist without internalized oppression, or without setting everyone up against each other. And the flipside of the last point is that everyone is going to gain from doing away with oppression, and so, we can (and must) all be each other’s allies.
“Improve the world, start with yourself.”
“If I’m not for myself, who should be? If I’m only for myself, what do I live for? If not now, when?”
“There are only two kinds of people: the people who divide humankind into two groups and the people who don’t.”
Unless we cry over it, oppression is not going to end. Here, I said it.
White people must shut up and listen to Black people about their lives.
The financially comfortable must listen to the less fortunate.
Men must listen to women.
Grownups must listen to the young ones.
The richer should listen to the poorer.
Listen to oppressed minorities.
Stop preaching to them, or arguing. Instead, out of their earshot, cry about what you heard. Only after that you may talk back–without arguing.
We need to listen to our loved ones. And we need to talk honestly about our feelings and thoughts, our hopes, and frustrations.
In any meaningful relationship, we should split time: one talks, the other listens, at halfway: the other talks, the one first listens. No commenting on what the other says (in the beginning), just warm, friendly attention.
Only when we understand how precious we each are, we’ll understanding how precious everyone else is, and how interconnected we all are. And then, all oppression and exploitation become our enemy.
Then, we’ll be so motivated to fight against inequality and for democracy for everyone. No more tyranny. Even our bosses and teachers need to listen and cooperate instead of just lording over us. No more hunger.
No more leeway for anti-democrats (bigots, exploiters, power freaks).
Everybody is invited to be a democrat. The ones who want to continue enriching themselves are not evil, only their motives are. We don’t even need to judge them. Only, they need to be stopped and disempowered until they’re ready to fight for all. And, let’s not fight them. They are not our enemy. Our enemy is inequality.
Preachers who don’t listen don’t get to preach anymore until they do.