Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

Women murdered in Israel by family members

There was a time that wives were just like slaves. Husbands couldn’t rape them as their agreement with the marriage meant that they had to submit to their sexual demands. This way of thinking was commonplace in the West only a couple of decades ago.

Women being unsafe in the street was considered normal in the West. In Israel a bit less, possibly because of here everyone minding everyone’s business so no one is fair game.

Shockingly, though, it is reported that about half of the 35 women murdered in Israel in the past two years due to domestic violence had complained to the police. They seem ignorant of how to protect them.

Yet, I want to say something hopeful here. In my experience, the Israeli police in the past decades, both the men and the women, had an enormous amount of bullies among them. Violent people who enjoyed beating up people and lying. But just yesterday, I say two soft-spoken uniformed police in the light railway. One a young woman, the other a non-White guy with a Pakistani complexion. Things are looking up.

What to do with the following – brace yourself.

Predominantly, Arab men in Israel murder women. Of the 25 this year: 11.

You can’t hide the facts just because you’re against racism – good for you.

However, there are small lies, big lies and then there are statistics. You can’t lump all groups together. Many of the Arab victims of family violence were murdered because of “family honor.” That is different from Israeli Jewish men murdering a close one because considering their partner property. The latter you cannot ignore just because of the former.

Also, the Arab group is statistically poorer so you can’t judge them equally. And Arab society has more murders traditionally (Jews don’t murder as much as most other nations – don’t blame the Arabs) – I’m sure the difference in Israel is fading over time.

Presently, Israeli Arab society is much too violent. There is hardly any effective policing in their neighborhoods and villages so that violence get the last word. When that changes, Arab women will be safer off too.

We live in good times. The old notion that men just happen to be violent and women just get raped and murdered is on its way out. What once was seen as a law of nature or a fact of life impossible to change is being exposed as unacceptable, is fought, is shamed and rejected.

About the Author
The author is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (DES - Diethylstilbestrol), born in 1953 to two Dutch Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a vegan for 8 years now. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo and Rav Zev Leff. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science, Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Many people can't understand or like him because he has such a wide vision that he never fits any specialist's box. But that exactly what others love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. * He likes doing age-appropriate and age-inappropriate things and looks forward to getting to know his timeless mature out-of-the-box soul mate. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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