50 Reasons Why You Are Still Single

All of them are true.

1. You don’t really want to get married.
2. You’re trying too hard.
3. You aren’t trying hard enough.
4. You’re too different from everyone else.
5. You don’t stand out enough.
6. You need to be a go-getter.
7. You’re too aggressive. Let things come to you.
8. You’re too focused on getting married. Lighten up and enjoy being single.
9. You need to get serious and settle down already. Getting married should be your number one priority.
10. You’re too open about yourself on dates. Keep it light for a while before getting personal.
11. You need to be more open about yourself to connect with someone and show you are serious.
12. You must be doing something wrong to turn people off.
13. You need a makeover.
14. You need to pick up a new hobby to become more interesting.
15. You need to get out more.
16. You need to take advice.
17. You need to relax and just be yourself.
18. You need therapy.
19. You just need to keep trying.
20. You should take a break from dating for a while.
21. You just haven’t met the right one yet.
22. You met the right one and turned her down.
23. You need to pray more.
24. You should find holy people to pray for you.
25. You’re relying on God to do too much.
26. You should move to another apartment.
27. You should move to another city.
28. You should move to another country.
29. You move around too much.
30. You should have more than one therapist.
31. Listen to your parents. They know what’s best for you.
32. Listen to your friends. They understand you and can be honest with you.
33. Listen to the experts.
34. Trust your instincts. Only you know what is best for you.
35. Don’t just go for coffee. It makes you seem cheap.
36. A first date should be light. Just go for coffee.
37. Don’t call back right away. It makes you appear desperate.
38. Call back promptly. It shows you are interested and sets a positive tone.
39. Ask her out again at the end of the date. It shows you are bold and serious.
40. Don’t ask her out at the end of the date. It puts her on the spot.
41. You should give everyone a chance.
42. If you don’t find her attractive, keep going out. Eventually you will find her attractive.
43. If it isn’t working, keep going out. Eventually it will work.
44. You keep doing what isn’t working.
    
45. You’re afraid of commitment.
46. You’re afraid of being rejected.
47. You’re too nice.
48. You’re a jerk.
49. You really should talk to someone. Maybe a therapist?

    And of course….

50. You’re too picky.

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Rabbi Chananya Weissman is the founder of EndTheMadness and the author of seven books, including “How to Not Get Married: Break these rules and you have a chance” and “EndTheMadness Guide to the Shidduch World” (available on Amazon). Many of his past articles are available at chananyaweissman.com. He is also the director and producer of a documentary on the shidduch world, Single Jewish Male, and The Shidduch Chronicles short film series, available on his YouTube channel.

He can be contacted at admin@endthemadness.org.