Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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An atheist’s Rosh Hashanah?

Pomegranate, apples and honey
Pomegranate, apples and honey

A rebbe was once asked if a non-believing Jew should make a blessing before s/he eats. His answer was: No, because that would be hypocritical (to acknowledge someOne Who one doesn’t recognize) but s/he should pause a second before eating. He called that: the pause that humanizes.

The question I want to raise is, can a Jewish Atheist have a meaningful Rosh Hashanah? I added the word meaningful to make sure we’re not just talking about eating an apple dipped in honey and pomegranate and singing Naomi Shemer‘s

Though, one could do less.

Traditionally, Jews check their ethical and ritual behavior and decide what to improve for the next year, to hopefully merit to stay alive. Maybe more importantly, we should do so, not just to prolong our days on earth but also to increase their value and meaning.

Smart people make only tiny new year’s resolutions. When we delivered them, we can plan a next step. Big pledges are bound to fail, as the saying goes: the way to Hell is paved with good intentions.

A popular trick to check our “Soul” is to see how we do with different Commandments. However, that should not charm your average Jewish Atheist. Let me suggest an alternative that should work for them.

Reb Shlomo Carlebach, with his big heart, shows us that being religious and being a people person is really one thing. He stresses that people who distance themselves from others to become “more religious” are rather removing themselves from G-d. Don’t kid yourself – he says – when you get closer to G-d, you get closer to people.

So, I see a very meaningful Rosh Hashanah preparation for the average Jewish Atheist of checking how they are doing in their relationships. How do you treat your close ones? (If you don’t have any, what are you going to do to get them?) How do you relate to people who are dependent on you (spouse, kids, waiter, cleaner)? How well do you ignore stereotypes and go against your set expectations of others? Do you treat everyone as valuable, worthy of your respect, as an equal, as an honor to meet? How well are you at being humble and not having to resort to anger or threats to feel safe and communicate gently what you want to say? Which people from oppressed groups make you feel uncomfortable and are under-represented in your life (Blacks, Gays, the Handicapped)? Do you prioritize hanging out with people who see you and treat you well? Are you generous enough to others, in money, time  and friendliness?

Will you just plod on the rest of your days, until your life comes to a hold, or will you rise to the occasion and make an effort to improve yourself?

These are not just private exercises for Atheists to excel in. Religious folks should ask non-believers to teach them these things more deeply.

I wish everyone a good and sweet Jewish New Year – especially Atheists!

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, previously a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He often makes his readers laugh, mad, or assume he's nuts—close to perfect blogging. As a frontier thinker, he sees things many don't yet. He's half a prophet. Half. Let's not exaggerate. He doesn't believe that people observe and think in a vacuum. He, therefore, wanted a broad bio that readers interested can track a bit what (lack of) backgrounds, experiences, and educations contribute to his visions. * This year, he will prioritize getting his unpublished books published rather than just blog posts. Next year, he hopes to focus on activism against human extinction. To find less-recent posts on a subject XXX among his over 1400 archived ones, go to the right-top corner of a Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". One can find a second, wilder blog, to which one may subscribe, here: https://mmvanzuiden.wordpress.com/ or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * Like most of his readers, he believes in being friendly, respectful, and loyal. However, if you think those are his absolute top priorities, you might end up disappointed. His first loyalty is to the truth. He will try to stay within the limits of democratic and Jewish law, but he won't lie to support opinions or people when don't deserve that. (Yet, we all make honest mistakes, which is just fine and does not justify losing support.) He admits that he sometimes exaggerates to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * Sometimes he's misunderstood because his wide and diverse field of vision seldomly fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what some love about him. He has written a lot about Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (including basic statistics), Politics (Israel, the US, and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight reality), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA+, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), the Climate Crisis, Ecology and Veganism, Affairs from the news, or the Torah Portion of the Week, or new insights that suddenly befell him. * Chronologically, his most influential teachers are his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim, Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. This short list doesn't mean to disrespect others who taught him a lot or a little. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, and disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed. He aims to bring a fresh perspective rather than harp on the obvious and familiar. When he can, he loves to write encyclopedic overviews. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds should be disputed. In short, his main political positions are among others: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, anti those who abuse democratic liberties, anti the fake ME peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, pro-Science, pro-Free Will, anti-blaming-the-victim, and for down-to-earth, classical optimism, and happiness. Read his blog on how he attempts to bridge any tensions between those ideas or fields. * He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (https://diethylstilbestrol.co.uk/studies/des-and-psychological-health/), born in 1953 to his parents who were Dutch-Jewish Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork. He grew up a humble listener. It took him decades to become a speaker too, and decades more to admit to being a genius. But his humility was his to keep. And so was his honesty. Bullies and con artists almost instantaneously envy and hate him. He hopes to bring new things and not just preach to the choir. * He holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam) – is half a doctor. He practices Re-evaluation Co-counseling since 1977, is not an official teacher anymore, and became a friendly, powerful therapist. He became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he was active in hasbara to the Dutch-speaking public. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having an original peek outside of your cultural bubble. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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